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Finding Stillness

4/11/2023

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Often, we move through the ocean of life as if we’re riding the surface - tossed around, bobbing and rocking with every wave.  We may be floating safely enough, but in this constant churning, we’re also thrown about by life, by people, responsibilities, and demands that pull on us.  We are tossed and turned - at the mercy of things outside of our control. 

Yet, beneath the crashing waves, the dark depths of the ocean offer a place of profound stillness, some distance from the surface turbulence.  Similarly, deep within each of us, at the core, there is stillness available.  The trick is to find it.  Once we’ve found it, we only need to return there, time and again. 

In this space, receive and allow yourself to be nourished and fed.  Life continues at its frenetic pace, but you can find your own agency within it.  In this space, feel both your separateness and your connection with others - not splitting off, but coexisting, maintaining your own steadiness, even in the waves.  We become fluid ourselves as we flow with life a bit more smoothly, grounded and solid in the knowing, the sensation of our own body.

In the Stillness
In the stillness
the answers come,
truths are unearthed,
promises remembered.
 
In the stillness
prayers are answered,
hearts are restored,
dreams fostered,
visions captured.
 
In the stillness
the oneness becomes clear,
connection to self deepens,
universal threads intertwine.
 
In the stillness
the magic lies
waiting for you to visit
and reside here,
for however many moments.
 
© Barb Klein, 2016, from 111 Invitations: Step into the Full Richness of Life
 
What do you think?  What does stillness offer you?  What might become possible or evident if you took the time to find some quiet, some space? 

Lao Tzu asks, “Do you have the patience to wait
                            Till your mind settles and the water is clear?

                            Can you remain unmoving
                            Till the right action arises by itself?”

Such a great and powerful reminder to get out of the chaotic spin, the tendency to react and jump into action without even having fully formed thoughts or ideas about what would be wise, skillful, or helpful to you, to the other, or to the situation. 

Patience - they say it’s a virtue, and I suppose that’s true.  Yet when we’re confronted with urgency, it can be terribly hard to access.  Taking a pause.  Finding our place of internal stillness helps. 

What helps us get to that rich place of stillness?  Pausing. Gathering ourselves up in our own loving presence.  Granting ourselves grace, stepping back, stepping away before needing to take any action at all.  Remembering that rarely anything good comes from the instantaneous fight, flight, freeze, or facade response. 

It’s far better to slow things down, find our bearings by finding ourselves in this moment - take stock through our senses.  Notice what we see, hear, smell, taste, and feel in this space.  Awareness anchors us into the present moment.  In that moment we can find and claim the stillness, remembering that even in a hurricane, there is the center of the storm, the eye that is relatively untouched by the raging winds.  When the storms of life are raging, take yourself to the eye.  Find yourself standing firm in the strength of who you are… not rigid, but strong and supple, able to bend and flow as the willow does.  Bending, but not breaking because you are allowing the storm to happen around you, choosing not to step into it or resist it. 

In the stillness, close your eyes, touch your heart, and ask the most important question: What do I need in this moment?  Allow yourself permission to ask, knowing that your needs matter.  Allow the answers to come.  Allow yourself to hear, even if it’s uncomfortable.  And then, from this grounded stance, begin to get curious about the ways you might be able to tend to whatever needs arise.  What could you try?  Who could you ask for help?  What can you let go of?  Is there anything here that is not yours?  What can you turn over to someone else or to God or the Universe?  Are you trying to carry too much?  What can you put down, dear one? 

In the stillness, take stock again.  What do you see, hear, feel, taste, and smell now?  Have your senses opened?  Perhaps now you hear the bird song that wasn’t there in the crashing waves of panic.  Maybe your eyes have softened to notice the yellow wren swinging on the feeder or the warmth of your lamp or even the light within the mostly grey sky. Maybe your heart and breath have slowed a bit.  Maybe.  Maybe not.  What’s true for you? 

The stillness offers us, invites us, into intimacy with our heart and soul.  The stillness washes over us, enveloping us like a warm bath.  The stillness opens our hearts and minds to fresh possibility - to see what wasn’t there before.  To try something maybe we’ve never done before.  Stillness offers spacious room to breathe, to stretch, to grow. 

Stillness reminds us we do not have to rush, and that when we let go of the rushing, we are far better equipped to face whatever challenges await.  It doesn’t take long for this medicine to work its magic.  For it’s not really magic at all.  It is the natural way of being - the essence of who we are.  All the outer busyness and craziness - that’s conditioning, learned behavior from our society.  The sense that we must be on or available all the time, that we must respond in an instant - that’s nonsense.  It makes no sense except when there is an immediate danger, which is fairly rare.

There’s almost always more time than we think, and if we allow ourselves even a few moments of pause, of quiet, of stillness, what will emerge is so much richer, wiser, skillful, effective, supportive, helpful.  So much more likely to be grounded in who we are and what we believe in.  So much more aligned with what really matters to us.  So much more likely to lead to fewer mistake and fewer regrets.

Let’s dive beneath the surface to tap into this deep anchoring of still, quiet nourishment.  Imagine what could be if we all did that a little more often.  Imagine a world grounded in stillness before action. 

Please enjoy Leah Kent's beautiful guided meditation, Anchored Stillness, as a support toward finding your own stillness in this moment.  
 Leah Kent is a book coach and author who helps wisdom keepers and visionaries write and publish transformational books about their work in the world. She’s the creator of the Wild Embodied Writing method, and the author of Awakening the Visionary Voice. To learn more, visit leahkent.net or connect with Leah on Instagram @leahkentco

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Catching Moments

11/25/2022

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It struck me recently how easy it is to miss the simple, little moments that make up most of life, waiting for some grand event - either a catastrophe or a wild victory.  Which got me thinking how important it is to slow down, to pause much more regularly, in order to notice. To not miss what’s right here. 

Fear... so adaptable...  
I’ve also noticed how freaking adaptable fear is… it doesn’t go away.  It just morphs from one thing to another.  Once an issue feels pretty stable or secure, fear goes looking for what to worry about next. 

And that’s why it’s important to pause from time to time and get some perspective.  To say to yourself, “Self… would you have worried about this a year ago?”  If the answer is “Hell no! This would have been better than anything I could have ever imagined…” well, then, we need to remind ourselves to notice what’s good and right in this moment.  To appreciate it.  To not miss it. 

Will there always be things to be afraid of and worry about if you have that tendency?  Sure!  And, is it possible to keep the fear of what might be from getting in the way of the beauty of what’s right here?  It is.  With a lot of awareness and ability to take a step back. 

That’s what I’ve been doing a lot lately.  Finding myself getting caught up in a frenetic spin, checking myself with a sweet, “hey now, wait just a minute…”  and reflecting.  Seeking that perspective.  Remembering how things have been much worse.  Remembering that I have no idea what the future holds.

Coming into this moment and appreciating it for what it is. 

Finding Beauty... 
Cheryl Strayed shares her mother’s sage wisdom to “put yourself in beauty’s way.”   What does that mean to you?  To me, it means looking for beauty each and every day.  Beauty in the physical world and also beauty at the heart level - beautiful interactions, small, simple moments - a shared hug, a shared tear, a shared laugh, or a quiet moment alone.  All beautiful in their own way. 

And in Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change, Maggie Smith shares how she and her children regularly call out to one another for “beauty emergencies!”  Come see the sunset before it’s gone.  Catch the eagle in flight!  Take in the beauty of the snow softly falling.  Let everything else wait and come here right now.  This is an emergency!  I love it!!

To me all of these reminders call me back to my quest to live life while I’m here.  To not miss the things that matter - saying yes to invitations and opportunities to be with people I love.  Prioritizing the things and people who matter most to me and to my heart and soul.  Finding gratitude - each and every day, no matter my mood, no matter the circumstances, it’s there waiting for me.  Finding it helps to balance perspective even on dark, sad, scary days. 

Finding One Good Thing...
This month my friend, Christine Callahan Oke proposed that for the month of November we share One Good Thing per day - #onegoodthing - and it’s been great.  Knowing that every day I will find something to share that is it for me that day.  Seeing what others are noticing and appreciating.  I think I may just keep it going even beyond November.  Why not?  It’s these simple practices that help us build our resilience, our appreciation, and our presence in life. 

Life is made of many moments.  Sometimes the simplest are the sweetest.  Let them be enough.  Let go of waiting for the grand event or the grand finale. It really is the steps along the way that create the journey that is our life.  


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Striving, Success, and Sustainability

4/22/2022

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Seems a lot of people begin their adult lives striving… working hard, trying to achieve something.  For many there’s a vague sense of what they’re aiming for, and for others there’s a very clear end goal in mind.  And, so the climb begins…  striving, driving, pushing to achieve, to prove, to feel worthy. 

We may be following a dream or course set out for us by someone else – our parents, teachers, or other adults who thought they knew what was best or right for us.  Things might look great and we feel like we’re checking all the boxes.  And then, at some point we may find ourselves unhappy, dissatisfied, even if things look great on the outside.

Somewhere along the way, many of us hit a point of wondering what the heck we’re doing.  Feeling like the goals we had set don’t matter as much any longer, whether we’ve reached them or not.  We begin questioning what really matters.  Is it having a 6 or 7 figure salary?  The fancy car? The prestigious title or position?  Who are we trying to impress and what are we trying to prove? 

So, we begin to look at the pace we’ve been going at and find that it’s just not sustainable.  In order to see if what you’re doing is sustainable, take a moment and get really honest about your energy, resources, reserves, and sense of enjoyment and fulfillment.  You may discover you don’t want to keep going the way you have been for decades.  If that’s the case, it’s time to start looking for what brings a sense of contentment, peace, and joy. 

Each one of us gets to define what success is for us.  How is it measured and how will you know if you’ve arrived? What will a successful life look like?  How will you be spending your time? Who will you be with?  What does an ideal day look like in a successful life (for you)? 

Asking these questions can free us from staying on a path that no longer makes sense.  It allows us to lean into our own values and priorities and create our reality with these as our guiding forces. 

One friend says “Hey, we only get so many heartbeats…” True and that number is unknown.  But each day we can decide where we allow those heartbeats to take us.  What we do know it that “finitude” is certain.  This life will end.  When you are looking back over your days, how will you feel about the way you have spent them?
 
The Dash Poem
by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
From the beginning...to the end
 
He noted that first came the date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
 
For that dash represents all the time
That they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
Know what that little line is worth
 
For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars...the house...the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
 
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
 
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
 
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.
 
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering this special dash
Might only last a little while
 
So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life's actions to rehash...
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent YOUR dash?
 
As you reflect on your life and how you’re spending your time, energy, and resources today, are you content?  If not, what changes do you want to make? 
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As you look ahead to the rest of your life, how do you want to feel?  What impact do you want to have made?  What do you need to do now so that you don’t burn out before you get there?  


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M is for More

4/15/2022

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We seem to live in a world where “more is better” drives a lot of people.  And, so we accumulate more material things, we strive to be more productive, to achieve more, to learn more, do more, and be more.  We buy more clothes, go for the bigger house which we quickly fill with more stuff.  All you can eat buffets lead people to stuff themselves in an effort to get their money’s worth! 

In today’s #AtoZChallenge, let’s stop for a minute to reflect on this.  Is this more mentality alive within you?  How does it drive you and what’s the impact? 

So many people I work with struggle to know that they are enough, exactly as they are.  And, I wonder if this idea of “more” plays into that somehow.  There can be a belief that they need to know more, have more training or degrees or certificates in order to show up to things that they really want to do (and in most cases are already more than qualified for). 

There can be a tendency to think we need more money, and so we keep working and working, without ever stopping to identify how much is enough.  In this drive to accumulate, you may push yourself beyond what’s reasonable, for fear of not having enough. 

There seems to be a belief that bigger is better, so businesses push to grow, to have more clients, more projects, and more income.  Growth may exceed the actual capacity to keep up and at some point, may tip into being too much.  What’s the ideal size of a business?  Where’s the sweet spot where no more is needed?  The perfect place that allows you the quality of life you desire and doesn’t burn you out along the way?  How many clients do you actually want to work with? What will be enough to satisfy and sustain you?

More and enough seem to go together, don’t they?  What might change if we stopped to check in with ourselves and asked, “What will be enough?  Why do I need more?  What will more do for me? What will more do to me?  Is it true that I need more, or am I ok just where I am?” 

As I mentioned in an earlier post, my father always pushed us to do more, to be more, to achieve and accomplish more.  To not settle.  But, what if it’s healthy to settle for enough?  And what if it’s not even settling? 

For me when I thought I had to keep reaching for something more, to keep raising the bar, I never felt satisfied.  I almost feel like I can hear my father’s voice saying “don’t be satisfied.”  I wonder what he was afraid of. 

When the bar must be continually and repeatedly raised, we don’t stop to notice or appreciate what we have or what we have done because we’re just on that hamster wheel spinning to churn out more, to keep up with some unidentified and unachievable goal. 


The Rat Race
-
Barb Klein from 111 Invitations: Step into the Full Richness of Life
 
Burning the candle at both ends
only fries us in the end.
Life’s obligations
pull at us,
stretching us too thin.
 
Work, commitments, financial concerns
push us, drive us,
command us
to go and do at all hours,
always connected,
always available,
no request too big.
Sure, we can do more.
 
It is there
we lose ourselves.
We lose our ground.
We give more
than we possibly can.
We do more
than is reasonable.
 
Pushed by expectations
that are irrational.
Compelled by fear.
If we don’t, we’ll be dismissed.
 
Life’s busy-ness consumes us,
and beats us
until we are weary
and our soul
saves us the only way it knows –
through sickness, injury, or layoff.
 
Anything to stop the madness
and bring some rest
unless we can find the balance,
find a way to honor the self.
 
There is no glory in burning out,
one more lost soul
in a wasteland of beings
striving, always striving,
to outdo one another,
to get ahead and stay ahead.
 
Of what?
I wonder.


I’m so grateful that this is (mostly) no longer how I live.  And, yet, that programming still runs in the background of my consciousness, and I think it plays out in ways I’m not even aware of.  There are areas in my life where I still tend to accumulate or over-commit.  Things I love (like books) I can (and have) easily collect more than I will ever be able to read in a lifetime.  I love to learn and seek to continue to grow, so I can take on more programs than I really have time for.  I can over-give of myself and my time. 

More ideas.  More possibilities.  This is another danger zone for me!  I no longer have the sweet work colleague to rein me in and force me to choose one thing so that we could proceed.  And, so, at times, I can get overwhelmed with more and more things I want to write about, create, or bring out to the world. 

It takes intentional effort to step back, pause, breathe, and check in with myself before giving into the seduction doing or having more in these areas.  I have to find ways to help me focus in on one thing at a time.  It takes mindful thought to know what’s reasonable and realistic. 

Not too long ago, I played with more in a couple of other posts – Less is More (we hear that all the time, and it’s something that holds a strong appeal to me).  And, because nothing is all or nothing, I also wrote Sometimes More is More. 

How about you?  Where do you find yourself wanting or seeking more?  Tell us the impact of more in your world?  Or, is this not an issue for you?
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Thanks for coming along with me while I play around with more and more questions!  I’m having fun and I hope you are too!  

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The Heart Revolution has Begun...

3/3/2022

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PictureDrew a heart in the sand to mark the moment - BFK + TFK 3-2-22
Two posts in two days!?  What??  Yup!  This one couldn’t wait – it’s bursting to be shared! (I think maybe, just maybe the heart revolution which I invited you to join yesterday has begun – I can feel it!).

Ah, I have to say, yesterday was absolutely perfect… even though Mary’s dead, Nate’s in the hospital, Adam wasn’t here, and I could “only” share the day with Tom.  It was amazing and my heart is still bursting to overflowing. 

Even though there were no gifts to unwrap, no cards to open, no flowers to receive.  It was absolutely perfect.  Why? Because I felt loved – because I loved myself and showed up for me and asked for what I wanted (pretty uncomfortable and not always the norm).  Because we created a glorious, heartfelt, magical day. 

And the moments matter way more than a mountain of material things ever could.

I got to be with Tom.  I got to talk to Nate, Adam, and Steve, and listen to messages from Mindy and Kare – and, even though they were the only ones who called, that was enough.

And, here’s the thing. I KNOW my experience in this moment could be vastly different if I narrowed my focus onto what wasn’t rather than what was.  What was missing or lacking rather than everything that filled my heart.  It’s an unwritten rule in my life that cards matter, and yet, there was not one single card, even from Tom.  But, what I had instead was his complete, undivided attention for an entire day, from sunrise til bedtime.  I’ll take it! 

Now, I can write about this because I allow myself to notice and to choose what I focus on – what really matters.  Time – wild horses – blue sky and sunshine – bird song, a starlit night, the sweetness of a loved one’s voice or message (and the effort they took to let me hear it or feel it).  Money can’t buy these things and these things bring tears of gratitude and break open my heart… Truly.

This is not me settling or compromising or making things be ok.  This is me landing solidly in a deep, deep contentment that life is so very good event though not every bit of it might be exactly perfect on the surface.   In my heart and soul it is absolutely Divine, heavenly, magical, and I am so grateful.

Maybe this is the wisdom of the years or the heavens speaking in this moment.  Tomorrow I might be a resentful bitch about something else, but it won’t be about my birthday.  Honestly, it was the best birthday ever because:
A. We created a day for me – that made one more of my little girl dreams come true – I got to see wild horses!!
B. No work. No productivity.  No squeezing one thing in even on the drive. Only time for what really mattered – delight, connection (with Tom and also through birthday messages via text, Messenger, email and Facebook), and
C. I let more of me free into the world with yesterday’s Heart Revolution newsletter and blog, which felt risky and was well-received, at least by some. 

Birthday Mantras: 
Tom asked me if I had any birthday mantras.  I said, “To take nothing for granted and to be more me!”  To choose to savor life – truly from deep within my heart.  To choose to just live and enjoy as many moments as possible, and to savor life’s sweetness and focus there.  To risk being called Pollyanna or too positive or pissing people off who would rather I hide my joy. 

This is the ground I stand on.  One where I don’t need to hide away my joy or delight.  One where I can dance and sing when I hear great music, even if it’s in a restaurant or on the beach or mall in a crowd of people.  One where I smile and tell a stranger I love her shirt or offer to help someone.  One that deepens connection because I am not locked away in my own discontent. 

Does this mean I won’t ever feel sad or angry or disappointed?  Does it mean that my heart isn't also breaking for the people who are suffering? Does it mean I'm not seething with anger at unjust acts of war? Hell no!  It means my heart can hold it all. It means from this heart-centered place I am grounded and ready to act.  It means that fierce compassion can rise up to take the steps that are mine to take.  

I will more honestly, more openly, more fully feel all that I feel and then decide where to dwell – which feelings to hang out with and for how long.  I will choose what actions are mine to take. 

And, you might say, “But, clearly you were disappointed with no cards or you wouldn’t have mentioned it.”   And I say with full honesty, and not to convince anyone, “No. That was just my mind noticing the story that I’ve lived with all these years, and my heart is discovering a new reality, a new truth.  I’m actually not disappointed at all.  In fact, quite the opposite.  I don’t care if Hallmark ever makes one more cent on a card for me!”  I am so very happy and grateful and I choose what’s good, what’s right in life.  That’s where I want to hang out. 

I am just not going to hold back any more.  Unlocking me feels so very good, and I do believe it’s part of this heart revolution. I hope you join me in setting yourself just a little more free today! This is what's possible when you do!  

Some Songs to Support this Feeling: 
Oh, and here's this morning's playlist to reinforce all of this! (You want another way to tap the wisdom of the Universe?  Create a playlist that awesomely fills your heart and put it on shuffle!  Amazing what comes through at just the right time!) Click the links for today's songs.  Enjoy!! 

All My Life - Linda Rondstadt and Aaron Neville (an anthem of our relationship) 
You'll Never Walk Alone - Marcus Mumford
Both Sides Now - Judy Collins (listen to the words... perfect accompaniment!) 
What Light - Wilco (thanks, Carol Moon, for this gem!)
Here We Go - WILD  (thanks, Jen Louden!) 
 

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Wild Horses on Cumberland Island, GA
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Birthday sunset from Saint Mary's, GA (of course, St. MARY's!)
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Less is More

11/9/2021

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Less is more... I know it's true and I feel the relief when I can actually let this idea guide me.  And yet, I'm finding that after decades of efforting (and probably over-efforting many, many times), even when I don't think I'm doing or thinking or trying too much, I am.  It really takes a lot for me to let down, to do less, to try less hard…  
 
How have I been reminded?  My body is showing me.  It's coming through in chronic holding patterns in certain muscles that clench and grip all the time, even when they don't need to.  It's coming through in tiredness from days that are booked too fully or that I simply fill with too many things and too many hours.  It's coming through in carrying an excessive number of books and notebooks with me for short trips, thinking I'll get to way more than I do (and more than I even want to).  It's reflected in mental fatigue when I think I can do too many things, accomplish too many tasks, finish too many projects in too little time!  It lives in unrealistic expectations imposed upon myself that I would NEVER hold for another human being.  
 
How might this idea that “less is more” be supportive and nourishing if it could truly be embodied and brought to life? 
  • Well, for one, it would open up more space and time on the calendar, allowing for more breathing room, less stress, and more time to pause and relax.
  • It would come through in a body that feels less tight, less over-worked, less over-stressed, more rested, more open, more expansive.
  • It would be reflected in less clutter and more open space, fewer clothes overflowing closets and drawers, fewer books taking up every inch of shelf space and beyond (which would also lead to more breathing room and spaciousness).
  • Overall there would be a sense of trying less hard - less tension and effort in yoga and Tai Chi, and even in meditation.  There would be a remembering there's no need or way to be perfect (especially with something that's new!). 
  • It would come through in a more relaxed way of being in the world… letting go of any need to impress anyone or prove anything.  Letting go of being the doer-of-all-things and the taker-carer-of-all-people.
  • There would be a sense of sweet simplicity, taking things one moment at a time - not multi-tasking, double-booking, or over-committing.  This is a great time to year to be conscious about that!
  • There would be fewer programs paid for and never completed or feeling woefully behind in - pausing and discerning before following “bright shiny objects” everywhere would keep you cued in to what is really doable and what would truly be beneficial at this time in your life, given your current reality.
  • You'd find yourself not packing things too full - programs, PowerPoints, retreats, vacations, days… life! 
  • Life would move at a sustainable pace and in a sustainable way.  You could lower the bar on yourself - lessen unreasonable expectations. 
  • You'd experience more lightness, ease, and joy, I believe!  As there is less stress, angst, anxiety and worry, there's room for more openness, acceptance, wonder, and support. 

What does it require?
  • Mindful awareness
  • Discernment
  • A willingness to resist temptation, the ability to say “no” and to be realistic
  • Pause (that pause… it's always so, so valuable)
  • Honesty, particularly with yourself
  • Gentleness and self-compassion

Of course, I offer all of this hypothetically speaking! I have only a vague idea what it really means to live from a “less is more” place, but I can certainly imagine the possibilities!  I am willing to try it out more often!  
 
Your invitation… 
Take a few minutes to consider if “less is more” is something you'd like to experiment with in your life.  Would it benefit you in any way?  How and where might you begin to play with this idea, lightly, gently, and kindly?  (no harsh taskmaster in a “less is more” world!).  
 
Is there anything you need to give yourself permission for?  A promise you want to make to yourself?  
 
Play with these prompts, if you like:
I'd like less___________and more ___________
I will create less ________  and make room for more ______________
If less is more, what's possible? 
Where would I like to begin? 
 
This week's meditation, “Less is More," invites you to apply it to your practice - trying less hard, expecting less of yourself and of your practice.  
 

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Getting Grounded

7/20/2021

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Phew!  It's been a doozy of a week for me - lots of dips into funks, times of abandoning myself, questioning myself, doubting myself, getting down on myself…  for no particular reason that I can pinpoint, which is the worst kind of out of sorts for me!  I like to at least understand what's going on.  

I try to remember that we all have these funks and I've talked to a lot of people who seem to be riding these funk waves with me at this time, but knowing it's to be expected and I'm not alone helps only a little.  Sometimes I am better at being with the discomfort of it, and other times I really just want it to stop… to go away!  

I definitely know that the more I'm able to let things be as they are and not aggressively try to change them, the more quickly it will move on through.  

I also know that when the inner turmoil is stirring it can be really unsettling, and at times we even feel shaken up, not grounded at all.  So, the theme this week is getting grounded.
 

Getting Grounded: 

One of the quickest ways to do this is to simply feel your feet on the floor (or barefeet on the earth if you can), feel your body being held by the seat, bed, or ground, let out a few audible sighs, maybe even imagining the stress or burden sliding right off your shoulders. Notice how your body wants to move. Does your neck want some gentle circles?  Do you want to wiggle or stretch in any way?  Let yourself move until you are just a little more comfortable.  Find yourself in this moment - look around - what do you see? What do you hear?  Who else is nearby?  Are you safe here?  (If not, please find a way to get to a place where you are). 

If you're feeling super agitated, you might want to shake your hands and arms (and maybe even your feet and legs) as if you're shaking off whatever it is that's getting to you.  

Feel your breath - notice its natural rhythm and quality in this moment without trying to change anything.  With each breath invite your belly to soften.  Place your hands on your lap or on your heart or on your belly… feel your own warmth and tender touch - this is a gesture of self-compassion.  Let yourself know that you are here for you.  

Allow yourself a little time to not need to DO anything or to figure anything out, but simply to be here with yourself.  Take the time you need… Connecting with your breath and feeling your body.  Support yourself to get into your body in this moment in time.  If there is any gentle reassurance you want to offer to yourself, please do… things like, “I'm here… we've got this… I love you.  We will get through this.  Shhhh….” can be tried out.  If you find a phrase that softens your body a bit, offer that to yourself - lean into it.  Let the softness come.  

Repeat as often as needed.  I've needed it a lot lately.  After I feel a little more grounded I've found it to be helpful to take note of what's true in this moment by either writing about “In this moment…” simply allowing my pen to move across the page about whatever is here right now for a few minutes or just saying aloud or silently to myself, “OK, in this moment…”  This helps to bring a reality check to this moment, this time, and keeps me from running away with the thoughts that may be carrying me in 900 different directions at once.  Right here. Right now.  Be here now.  (Sometimes I recite this simple phrase to myself with every inhale, exhale, and pause).  

How do you get grounded? I'd love to hear - please share your ideas so that we can add to our available practices!  

I've recorded this guided meditation to support you in getting grounded.  I invite you to give yourself a few minutes and allow yourself this time to settle in to this moment.  


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Our Need for R.E.S.T...

7/13/2021

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Coming back from a couple of days away with my husband, Tom, I am reminded how vital REST is to our spirits, bodies, minds, hearts, and nervous systems.  While we were away our only goals were to rest, relax, have fun, and flow with our days. 

Yesterday I spent the day reading, writing, and relaxing by the pool – dipping in when the sun got too hot, getting in the shade when I needed a break from the sun, and talking and laughing with Tom.  We were lighthearted and delighted by the simplicity of the day.  We did not allow work or phones to interrupt our time.  We consciously chose to take this time together to enjoy life and one another.  Summer is a great and easy time to do this as it seems to lend itself to it – there’s a collective energy of play, vacation, and lightness. 

On our drive home we listened to a podcast with Broadway sensation, Lin-Manuel Miranda, a wildly creative man!  He shared that much of his inspiration for his shows came when he was in a relaxed state – floating in a pool or on vacation.  Of course, there’s much hard work involved in bringing what he creates to life, but there is also an opening for creativity that happens when he is in a state of rest. 

I have experienced this myself and witnessed it in others – it may look like we’re procrastinating or not creating because there isn’t yet anything to show the world.  But, in reality, when we slow down and give ourselves some spaciousness, our mind is free to dream, to imagine, to visualize and we are open to receive bursts of insight, inspiration, and artistry.  Percolation time is a necessary precursor (at least for some of us) for spurts of creativity. 

It struck me that we all have a deep need for rest, for so many reasons.  As a society we are often rest-deprived, placing value on busy-ness and productivity over this restorative space that can feel like nothing is happening.  What we miss is that often, something important is still going on even though there isn’t outer evidence or product to show. When we have time and space, we can access fresh perspectives for problem solving, and our imagination can dream up things that wouldn’t be possible if we forced them.  When our nervous system can relax, we are not in a state of fight or flight, but rather receptivity, wonder, and openness.  We are more likely to respond more thoughtfully than react mindlessly.

I offer you this way to look at REST:
R – Re-boot
E – Exit
S – Space
T – Time

 
Re-boot: Just as your computer or phone can get bogged down or frozen and needs to be powered down and then re-started, we too need periodic re-boots.  Without taking a break, we become overly reactive, spinning (just like that annoying circle on your computer), going nowhere.  Our nerves are frayed, we’re depleted and drained.  We need to interrupt this spinning by stepping back from the habitual pace at which we move and the typical things we mindlessly do.  We need to power down, unplug - choose to give ourselves an intentional break to refresh, rejuvenate, re-fuel, re-energize (so many great R words… I could go on forever, but I’ll spare you! You can add your own).  This allows us to start up again with renewed energy, fresh perspective, a lighter heart.
 
Exit – Like a performer, sometimes we need to “exit stage left” from the center of our lives where all the activity is happening.  Get out of the spotlight, step behind the curtain, take off the costume, mask, and makeup and just BE.  Whether you step away for 3 minutes, 3 days, or 3 weeks, an intentional exit will give you a chance to re-boot.
 
Space – We need space in our lives – physical space, space in our schedule, distance from one another and time between activities.  I was highly aware of this on our drive.  I want several car lengths between me and the car ahead of me; I want to change lanes well before I need to make a turn and in a time when it’s safe to get over. 
 
This tendency transfers to life for me.  I don’t want to be squeezed into a tight space where I have to react without thinking, to feel pushed or rushed.  In traffic or in daily life, these scenarios make me anxious.  It’s easy to fill our schedules so tightly with calls or meetings that there is no room between meetings for a bathroom or meal break or even time to do the actual work. It’s even easier to fill our schedules so that there is no time available for the mini reboots (a quick walk outdoors, a conversation with a friend, a breath of fresh air or a day off), and we begin to feel an internal pressure of constraint and overwhelm. We need breathing room in our days in order to think clearly, be inspired or creative, show up to life’s challenges at the top of our game (or at least closer to it). 
 
Time – We need time… time alone, time to move more slowly, time to breathe, time to connect and time to reflect.  This goes very closely with space, as you can see.  We need to allow ourselves more time than we think we need to get places and finish tasks!! How many of you are overly optimistic when it comes to those kinds of things?  When we give ourselves time, we create the space which allows us to exit or step aside for a moment or more in order to re-boot. 
 
How do you know when you need a REST?
 
What are your signals when it’s time for you to give yourself this critical R.E.S.T.?  How does your body let you know?  Your mind?  Your heart?  Your spirit?  Learn to listen more closely for these internal signals so that you can respond with self-compassion and kindness.  We want to be proactive in creating this time of R.E.S.T so that we don’t find ourselves “resting” with a headache, illness, or injury. 
 
Taking time to re-boot, exit, and allow space and time will have a ripple effect!  Not only do you benefit – the people in your life will thank you too!  Give it a try and please let us know your thoughts and experiences here.  How do you like to give yourself R.E.S.T.?  What happens when you don’t?  What’s your promise to yourself in terms of honoring this need in the next little while?  

In need of a R.E.S.T?  Join me on retreat...  

If you're in need of some serious rest, please consider joining me, Sandra Sabene, and Carol Moon for this year's Let Your Light Shine Retreat, September 24-28th at the deeply restorative space that is Light on the Hill Retreat Center in the gorgeous Finger Lakes of Western NY!  We have created this time to allow you lots of space and time to let down, to connect with your inner wisdom and inspiration, to renew and be deeply nourished physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually! Early bird registration closes July 31st!  

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Everyday Beauty

6/1/2021

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This week I come to you with a simple, but not easy invitation.  Slow down and notice the everyday beauty all around you.  Pause to take in sights, sounds, scents.  Cherish a sweet smile shared in passing with a stranger.  Savor a conversation with a friend.  Take your time as you enjoy the sweetness of a strawberry.  







This practice pairs well with gratitude and it can completely shift our experience of life because it redirects our focus.  Even in hard times, sad times, angry times, there is beauty to be found.  The more we notice, the more often we remember to look.  We soften and we begin to allow in “this too…”  Even as my heart breaks, I can find the beauty in a flower offered with love.  Even when it's a dark and gloomy day, there is a fleck of color that catches my eye.  

Curious... What do you notice? 
I'd love to hear about the beauty you notice as you move throughout your day.  I'm also curious what shifts for you as you take time to look for it… to include it.  Please share in the comments below!  

This isn't about painting over anything painful or hard.  It's about saying “this too…”  This too is here.  It isn't all good or all bad, all black or all white - there are so very many shades of color in between.
 
This week's meditation is “Everyday Beauty.” I invite you to join me in this practice as we slow down and become present… as we notice the beauty we might otherwise miss.  May this practice fill you up.  

If you've missed previous meditations, you can access my entire library for free at Soundcloud.  I invite you to explore and see which practices would most support you this week.  

​A Beautiful Invitation for You: 
Doors are open for my Soul Care group (which is a truly beautiful thing in itself) for the summer session which begins next Monday, June 7th.  This is a group that comes together to focus on self-care and also nurturing and nourishing our souls so that they are filled up!  We will be gathering every other week on Monday evenings from 7-8:30 PM EDT June - August.  Email me to apply if you're interested in joining this group.  

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The Pressure of a Beautiful, Perfect Summer Day

8/3/2020

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​These rare days
When the sun is shining,
The temperature is ideal,
And you know this is a cherished gem…
 
The pull… to do it all.
The conflict between the pull and the tired one
                who says, “I just want to rest,”
Let me savor this day,
                this moment.
Let me not rush to cram in all the things.
Let me allow the day to unfold,
                As it will. 
 
Allow me to savor a sweet nap, receiving sleep into my being,
Savor the melted butter seeping into the warm pumpkin bread,
The sweetness of melon,
The refresh of a cool glass of water.
 
Let me sit on the deck
Listening to the birds,
Watching the wispy clouds,
Feeling the urgency, but letting it stay out there.
Remembering what it was to be on vacation –
With only one week, before clean up and check out.
 
Let me savor the living in this sacred place. 
 
I get to be here, day in and day out.
I do not have to leave tomorrow to return anywhere.
I am home…
                and it is enough to simply honor my tiredeness this day.
 
Sun shining and lake calm do not have to demand
                that I come out and play.
I do not need to wait for the rain’s permission
                to lay low and take it easy.
 
It is a perfectly lovely delight
To merely BE on this day.
To breathe in the fresh air,
To enjoy the sight of boats and jet skis,
Hurrying about,
To allow others their experience of this day.
 
For me… I savor the silence, the stillness,
                the rest.
I let go of the hustle – with gladness.
I am relieved to drop the burden of ambition,
                or expectation,
                or “I don’t want to waste this day,”
                or “I must get this right.”
 
I feel the weight slip from my shoulders
As I simply allow and simply savor

This beautiful, perfect summer day.   

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