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What Would Love Do?

4/13/2021

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Each morning I set an intention for my day…a quality that I invite in to support me throughout the day.  A guidepost that I can touch back in with when I remember.
One of my favorite and most powerful intentions is Love.  It allows me to check in with it throughout the day, asking, “What would Love do?”  before I react to a situation or sink into a particular story I'm telling myself.  

Asking What would Love do? allows us to tune into the quality of love as a guiding force.  Love reminds us to be gentle with ourselves and others, to act kindly and with compassion, remembering that we're all doing the best we can in this moment.

What does Love do?  
Love listens… 
Love sees you and hears you 
Love comforts a hurting heart
Love softens loneliness
Love sits with a hurting friend without any need to fix or advise
Love gives from a generous place, without expectation
Love fills us up
Love sets boundaries that are clear but not harsh
Love says “yes” or “no” without apology
Love cultivates trust
Love cuddles the dog
Love patiently sets aside the to-do list and chooses to be present with another
Love puts the phone away
Love smiles at a stranger, holds a door, and lets the anxious driver cut in

Love feeds the birds
Love slows down to notice the beauty
Love appreciates what's here

What else?? 

I invite you to try it out today. When you find yourself reacting, pause… ask yourself, “What would Love do?”  and notice how it changes your interactions, your perceptions, your perspective, and your day.  Let us know by sharing in the comments! 

The meditation I am sharing this week is one called “What Would Love  Do?” I invite you to enjoy this practice as we begin by first extending this love to ourselves.  

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Let's Lean into Nature

10/10/2020

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Let’s lean into nature’s wisdom and away from the fearfulness and reactivity of human nature.  In nature there is an inherent understanding of the ever-changing nature of life – the seasons, days, cycles… they happen without thought or worry. 

Seeds scatter everywhere – some will take root and flourish, while others will become food for some animal or nourishment for the soil.  Acorns don’t strive to become the biggest, strongest, best oak tree in the forest. They simply hold their potential and allow it to break forth in the perfect time, in the perfect way. 

Nature flows with the great mystery.  It doesn’t need to know how or when things will work out. 

Animals simply follow the rhythm of their ancestors, follow their inherent knowing about when to gather, move, hide, or attack. They don’t waste time on worry or hate.

In the wilderness, diversity is valued and appreciated.  The multitude of trees and plants yield a variety of beauty that we cherish.  Species are interdependent and interconnected, as are we if we would only pause long enough to feel into this truth.  Can we learn to value the uniqueness each of us brings to this life?  What would be possible if we operated with a solid understanding of our inter-relatedness? 

At this very moment where I live, trees are shedding their lives, gathering their energy inward to move into a time of dormancy.  They are letting go of the past season – allowing the old to fall away in preparation for what’s to come.  Preparing for a time of rest and rooting before opening their branches to new growth in just a few months.  What might you let go of to prepare you for fresh growth?

What would it be like if we could quiet the tendency to get busy and simply drop our roots into those things that nourish and nurture us so that we can stand strong and steady amidst the storms?  What if we learn to bend and sway with the winds so that we don’t break in unyielding rigidity? 

What might we learn from the forest?  Mary Reynolds Thompson offers this wisdom from the forest (5 min. video) to support us as we deal with a global pandemic. 

As Thompson says in her book, Reclaiming the Wild Soul: How Earth’s Landscapes Restore Us to Wholeness, “The wisdom you seek (in the forest) can be experienced but never possessed.  Wild, ancient, primal, it moves through the shadows.  The presence of such mystery and immensity is overwhelming.  You may have to fight the urge to break the tension by running away.  But, if you remain, at least for a while, things will happen.  In this uncertain world, creativity flourishes.” 

Can we cultivate the capacity to take a deep breath, stand still, and be in the present moment?  Can we stop and feel the tension of wanting to do something and not knowing in this mysterious time?

What if we could simply learn to hold ourselves, knowing something new is growing and will emerge?  Root, breathe, pay attention, and go deep within ourselves to feel for what is wanting to come forth naturally and organically, without force. 

Can we allow the uncertainty to give birth to creativity?  We are in a time where we need creative thinking, problem solving, and fresh ideas… and if we can only be still for a bit, we can allow space for those things to emerge from a place of intelligence that comes from deep within. 

Please share your thoughts and reflections below.  

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Go Gently... Please

4/3/2020

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​Now is a time to go gently with yourself and with others.   Now is the time for love, for generosity, for kindness and compassion – toward all beings, including you!  It is the time to care deeply.  It is NOT the time to judge, shame, or condemn others.  I see the temptation and suspect it’s going to get stronger as we grow more impatient, frustrated, and weary.  And so, I plead with you, please, please be gentle… 
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March 11th, just a little over 3 weeks ago, marks the day our world changed forever.  It was not long ago at all and yet it feels like a lifetime ago… we got the call that morning telling us that the mighty Mom Klein had died.  We visited our son (2 days before visits were shut down for the foreseeable future), grateful we could deliver this news in person and share our tears, love, and hugs.  I went out to lunch with my sister at a local restaurant and enjoyed a nice meal, and probably another hug or two. 

March 12th – with a growing sense of things quickly spinning into something unknown and foreign, I did a radio show with Lori and Keith from Recovery Coach University Radio.  With a heightened sense of awareness, we did wipe all the equipment and surfaces with Clorox wipes and mostly kept our distance, but we didn’t yet get how serious this was.  We joked about the toilet paper hoarding and shook our heads in confusion… and just to be safe, on the way home, I bought two packs.  We affirmed and were relieved by my younger son’s decision to cancel his trip to Florida for Spring Break, even though he is young and healthy… already it felt like the unquestionably right call.  Just days earlier I had told him I thought they’d be fine to go… 

Things were changing and happening so rapidly and have been ever since.  I feel like I’ve been caught in a whirlwind… internally and externally.  A blur of news updates, of emails advising of extra precautions being taken which rapidly morphed into “We are closed until further notice…”  Cancellations, closures, schools switching to online learning,… more and more erasures in the planner of all the trips, appointments, and events I had coming up.  April went from one in which I would barely be home to one in which I will only be home, with no plans. Each day brings with it a swirl of thoughts and feelings as I try to magically predict when this will all be over, fall into despair, perk up at a story of goodness – living within the chaos of it all. 

It’s a lot.  We must be gentle. 

There has been so much letting go… of classes, appointments, events, routines, regular support, fun times with others, contact with loved ones.  And, in all this letting go, we are all feeling the weight of uncertainty.  Those words “until further notice” land with a dark and ominous tone. They remind us that life is always uncertain – we just usually pretend it isn’t.  Somehow it feels extra uncertain right now with so many things being disrupted all at once.  The fear is palpable as this invisible antagonist sweeps around the world.  As we take in the death tolls, we are faced with our own immortality and the truth that one day those we love will also die.  We hope it won’t be alone. 

We are ordered to shelter in place, to self-quarantine, or to PAUSE as our NY Governor has called it.  For a moment we imagine all that we’ll get done in this time when busy-ness is taken away.  But then we feel the weight of it all, and we are reminded of how exhausted we are and that stress takes a toll on everything.  We are brought to our knees as we are forced to confront what is truly essential.  To re-prioritize our lives – what really matters?  Health.  Relationships.  Life.  Love.  Kindness. Compassion. Generosity.

All these free offerings??  They are oh so tempting to someone with Bright Shiny Object Syndrome, like moi!  The urge to fill in all that usually coveted white space is strong, and I catch myself mindlessly signing up, saying “yes, please distract me from the here and now…”  Nature abhors a vacuum, and apparently so do I.  Until I reality check and realize my bandwidth is not as wide as my white space – it’s actually much, much less than before. 

I remember to be gentle with myself. 

I don’t need to do all the things – only those that will really nourish me.  I only need to be on the calls with people and in groups that feel supportive.  I can skip the rest.  This might not be the time to learn a new skill or to focus on business.  This might be a time when less really is more.  I want to do more less! 

Over the past few weeks it has been easy to let this ever-present concern consume us.  It’s been easy to get obsessed even when we didn’t intend to.  Even if you don’t watch the news (which I don’t generally), the news is everywhere…social media posts, headlines of breaking news at the top of my email inbox and within every single email that comes in it’s there… Coronavirus… COVID-19. We need to be informed, but we don't need to be flooded with input.  It's too much to digest. 

We see the inherent inter-connectedness of all beings and this both terrifies and empowers us.  We are reminded that viruses don’t respect borders, oceans, or walls. 

We find ourselves reeling as we ride the roller coaster of emotions in this human experience – feeling our own and the collective fear, overwhelm, sadness, dread, and grief while also being uplifted and inspired by the many acts of compassion, caring, kindness, love, and generosity.  This time bringing out the best and the worst in us. 

It’s a lot. 

We come to realize that we are feeling more tired and less productive than we’d like – not an easy thing to accept in a culture used to driving, doing, achieving, producing, succeeding…   Suddenly we wonder what “succeeding” even means right now. 

Now we realize that it’s nearly impossible to find motivation or create from a space of exhaustion and anxiety. So, we surrender to Netflix bingeing, earlier bedtimes, and longer nights of sleep. 

This is our new normal, and it’s anything but “normal.”  It changes moment by moment, and the only reasonable way to approach it is one moment at a time. 

We feel the weirdness of endless disinfecting and keeping our hands from touching our faces.  We feel the creepiness in the air as masked figures move together, but apart, averting gazes (as if we won’t really be there if we don’t look at one another), collectively holding our breath – together, but apart. 

And we're reminded that in the empty streets what feels like the end of the world is also a reflection of our great act of love, our care and concern for others, our desire to be part of the solution. 

It’s. A. LOT!

So, please… go gently into this next day. Into this next moment.

Take breaks – a lot of breaks.  Get more rest than feels reasonable.

Offer tender loving care to your sweet self.

Say “yes” to the things that make you happy.

Bake the familiar goodies that comforted you as a child (Betty Crocker Blueberry Buckle for me today!).

Wear clothes and jewelry that feel good.  Maybe wear things from places you’ve loved or concerts you’ve enjoyed (today I’m wearing my Albuquerque sweatshirt to mark that I should have been arriving there this afternoon).

Hug a tree.  I’m pretty sure that’s still a safe thing to do! 

Offer a loving smile to a stranger.  Call a friend.
 
Extend love and compassion freely, often, and wherever you can, beginning with yourself.

Know that we will get through this. 

Please.
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Go gently… until further notice.  

How are you going gently these days??  Please share in the comments below.  We can learn from you. 


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You are NOT the Energizer Bunny®!

12/2/2016

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Dear One, 
I have news for you… and, this might come as a shock, but you are NOT the Energizer Bunny®!  No, you are not a mass of fuzziness wearing cool shades, banging aimlessly on a drum while spinning and whirling recklessly around the house.  

Sure, you may feel that way from time to time, but it’s not the truth.  And, this whole idea of “Keep going” is doing you no good!

There is no battery in you that can go and go and go for thousands of hours without stop. You are not a mechanical being – you are a tender human BEing who needs rest and nourishment, fun, laughter, and play. 

I thought this might be a good time to remind you as the hustle and bustle of the holidays piles on top of the media assault on our senses.  In the midst of all this bombardment is a sweet (and, yes, very strong, but not invincible) YOU!  

You – the one who is so good at giving to others, doing for others, taking on the world… you are the one they seek now with endless requests and demands for your precious time, energy, and resources.  Please give more.  Please give to me.  Please take care of me and my needs.  Please speak up for this cause.  Please donate over here.  Please, please, please… You hear it ringing in your ears, even when you sleep!  

And, so you give.  And you give as if there is a bottomless reservoir from which to pour. You forget to step back and take even just a little time to replenish your beautiful self.  The spark will burn out – maybe it already has, and you’re feeling strung out, burned out, and just a wee bit overwhelmed.  Maybe you’re just plain tired.  

“But, but, but… “ you protest because you have so many goals to achieve before the year is done; so many gifts to buy; so many causes to support; so many cookies to bake; so many cards to write; so many parties to attend… You know the drill!  

Can you just give yourself a break from all the DOing and sink into your BEing-ness? Can you slow down for just a minute, take a breath, and check in to see what would really nourish you?  Cause, guess what?  It’s not cheese puffs, beer, and pumpkin pie that are going to sustain you!! I’ve tried that, and it is not cutting it!!  

What can you do to give to yourself in this busy time?  Do you even hear your own voice calling to you amidst all the noise?  What would truly nurture your body, mind, heart, and soul right now?  Today?  It can be very simple, but first you have to stop.  Stop everything else.  Quiet the outside racket, and listen to your body.  Listen to your heart.  Close your eyes.  Put your hand on your heart or your belly.  Breathe.  And, ask your heart, body, and spirit...  
~ What do they need from you in this moment?  Today?  

Other great guiding questions are:
~ What is most important or what really matters?  (is it a getting a tree right now at all costs, or is it more important that we do this as a family at a time when we can all do it with joy?) 
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 What will bring me joy?
~ What would be life-enriching for me?  

And, then choose just one simple step to take that will really honor your beautiful self.  And, then do it again later today, and tomorrow until this becomes a practice that is a natural part of your life! 

It could be as simple as stepping outside and getting some fresh air, moving in a way that truly brings you joy, eating food that fills your body with nourishment and sustenance, connecting with someone who lifts you up and makes you laugh, checking out and taking yourself to a movie mid-day, taking a short horizontal break, getting to a yoga or kick your butt and sweat like crazy class, sitting with your sweet pet and soaking in their love while letting their warmth soothe you, reading a novel, writing a poem, singing a song and dancing with total abandon…  

What ideas come to you when you really take the time to ask?  Please share them below so that we can add to our own bucket of resources.  
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Every single one of us needs and deserves this time for self-nurturing and rejuvenation! 
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Disconnect to Connect: The Power of Retreat

4/13/2015

 
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In The Woman’s Retreat Book, Jennifer Louden states, “retreats are essential – to our minds, bodies, spirits.” I couldn’t agree more.  She goes on to quote Rabbi David Cooper from Silence, Simplicity, and Solitude as saying “The soul yearns to  be nourished, and if the reservoir begins to run low, we feel ourselves becoming dull, empty, brittle, and arid. If it sinks lower, we enter into states of angst, despair, and depression.”  Harsh truths, and yet they are truths I have found through my own experience with retreat. 

We live in a very busy world in a very busy time, and the tendency is to go and push until we burn out. We are caregivers and often forget to give gentle care to ourselves.  A retreat offers us a chance to nurture and nourish ourselves.  To rejuvenate and renew.  This is part of our growth cycle, and as we strive to be more and do more, always growing and expanding, ever busy, it is critical that we allow for this down time to restore ourselves.  Just as plants have a period of rest, so our physical bodies need rest in order to blossom into our fullest beauty, strong and vital. 

Our minds also need a rest.  In the space of a quiet mind we are able to tap into our heart center and hear the deeper messages of our heart and spirit. In this place we can listen to inspiration that is beyond what the mind can “figure out” in its usual state of busy-ness.  The deep wisdom of our spirit can speak to us when we slow down and take the time to tune in.

When I am on retreat I find a deeper sense of alignment with myself and my purpose. I gain inspiration in the form of new ideas, deep insight, and fresh energy. I have a restorative sense of peace and a calmer, more balanced state of mind.  All of this allows me to handle what life throws at me more smoothly.  It allows me to put into action the things I am called to do with greater ease, clarity, and confidence.  Having a stronger relationship with myself allows me to have better relationships with others.  Only when I honor myself can I hope to honor others. 

Sometimes retreats are seen as decadent, frivolous, or even selfish.  Nothing could be further from the truth. You are foundation of all that you are and do in the world. If you are depleted, how can you possibly support your family or give your all to your work? When you take time to give yourself the gift of renewal, you are able to show up for life and your many roles with a clear head, vibrant energy, and fresh ideas.  Try it for yourself! I invite you to join us for an upcoming Women's Self-Renewal Retreat. Take a weekend and let it be just for you.  If this doesn't work for you, then take a day or part of a day at home and declare a personal retreat. Turn off your phone, stay away from the computer, put up the “do not disturb” sign, close your eyes and sit mindfully or take a walk and listen.  Listen to your heart. Hear your soul. What do they want you to know? 



Pause...

1/6/2015

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I’m writing a somewhat different New Year’s message than most, and I write it as much as a caution to myself as to anyone else.  I am an avid learner. I am committed to my own growth and the growth of others.  And, I can easily overload myself with more input than I can possibly take in in this lifetime!  Pause – stop – take a breath – reflect – tune in before you sign up for every program to make you a “better” person, entrepreneur, partner, etc…  Before you commit to lose weight, get in shape, organize everything in your life, earn six figures (preferably in the next 6 weeks), slow down and evaluate.  Is this right for me?  How is my time and energy best spent?  How much time and energy do I really have?  How much input can my brain handle and how much do I really want to give it? 

What do I most need to feel enriched, fulfilled, energized, supported, and on track for MY goals, for what’s truly most important to me, not what every ad is shouting at me that I need.  It’s overwhelming and it’s way too easy to get swept up in the energy of self-improvement that is like a tidal wave after New Year’s day. 

The truth is each day, each moment holds the promise of potential and possibility.  So, take it easy as you find your own way to your true happiness, fulfillment, and success. 

Maybe other people’s goals aren’t yours.  Maybe what you need is more down time, more time for true renewal, or more special time with those you love.  I encourage you to pause and really listen to your heart, your wisdom that knows what’s best for you.  Take some time to consciously, mindfully commit to putting energy, time, and money into those things that will really nurture, excite, and support you to be the best you. 

You don’t need to be a “better person” as one ad I heard says – you simply need to honor yourself and make space for the best version of you to emerge. You will find this in silence, in reflection, in pause rather than in reacting to frenetic pleas that all tell you you aren’t good enough as you are. 

When you do feel a strong pull from within to something, pay attention, impose your own urgency and get going.  Because it’s right for you.

You don’t need to be fixed.  You aren’t broken.  You are enough. Exactly as you are right now.  Free yourself from others’ messages, expectations, and judgments so that you can truly discern what works for you. 

What would your ideal day, week, month, year look like?  Who would be part of your world? How would you spend your time?  What movement does your body really enjoy?  What foods nourish and energize you?  What practices restore and renew you?  Who fills you with joy and inspiration? 

Rather than being pushed by shame and guilt to change or remove what you don’t want or don’t like, let yourself be inspired by what you want to bring in, what you want more of, what fills you up so that you can let your light shine in 2015!  Pause.  Start here.  

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