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Reflections and Intentions

1/7/2023

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Looking back and looking ahead.  It’s that time of year.  Though it’s really just the turning of a page on the calendar, there is a collective energy around the New Year that we might as well get on board with.  For me it’s not about resolutions (they simply don’t work for most people).  It’s not about goals, because despite being a coach, the language of goal-setting has never resonated for me.  I am much more about reflection, vision, intention, mindful, thoughtfulness as well as opening to possibility, allowing what will come to be revealed. 

To look back on 2022, I have to take out my calendar.  I can barely remember what I did yesterday, so to think back to last January is a stretch.  One thing I know for sure is that last January/February I was immersed in a grief so strong it swallowed me whole.  On Christmas Eve 2021, one of my closest friends of all time, Mary Lally, died.  The grief that rushed in was similar to what I felt after losing my mom.  Except this time, I had the time and space to really let myself feel it… to be with it… to see how it moved me and moved through me.  It was intense, and it’s not over.  Grief doesn’t end.  It just changes and surprises us from time to time with its energy.  (read Good Grief, Gratitude, and Grace or Swimming in the Messy Stages of Grief if you want to see what was brewing in me then)

2022 was a year of Heart Evolution, Heart Revolution.  My heart opened.  My heart shut down.  My heart exploded in many different ways.  I am forever changed.  (my second post about Heart Revolution is here)

What I intended to but didn’t do…
Recently I saw a post from Cheryl Strayed that shook me in a beautiful way. She had been transcribing her journals and came across a list from 10 years ago - a list of 10 things she had intended to do, but hadn’t in the prior year.  What a fascinating reflection!  In the midst of so much celebration and acknowledgment of “this year’s highlights,”  I don’t know that I have ever seen anyone take the time to notice and call out what they didn’t do. 

So, I decided to play with this in my own way, which includes a bit of what I did do instead…  I didn’t do this, but I did do this… or an inquiry into what the not doing shows me about myself.  What might I learn or discover as I look at these things without judgment, just seeing them as truthful observations. 

So, I’d love to share a bit of this with you and invite you into your own reflection and inquiry. 

I didn’t lose the 10 pounds that I sometimes say I need to.  But I did gain 10.  I went up a size or two, and have been grappling with whether this really matters to me or not (and if it does, why?)   What do these numbers represent to me?  Why do I care? Does it matter that I added an X to my L?  Does it change who I am or the value I bring to the world?  Do I care or is that just part of the story I’ve bought into and told myself?  How might I learn to love the body I have at this phase of life, appreciating what it has done for me over all these decades?  I am learning to move with flesh I am not used to having, getting to know the body that is mine in this time of life.  This isn’t an exploration I’m finished with or comfortable with by any means.  I’m still in the thick of it (no pun intended) trying to figure out what’s really true for me.  I wrote a bit about this during my April A to Z Blog challenge (my theme was Question (Almost) Everything - Bodies, Bumps, and Bulges, Oh My!)

I didn’t finish writing my second book, a companion for families in recovery from the effects of a loved one’s substance use.  I wanted to have this done by Spring, before our lives would change in a significant way and I feared I’d lose the time, energy, or maybe even mindset to keep writing. 

I did, however, decide to slow it down with the process so that I can write the best book I possibly can at this time.  This feels really good and right.  This book deserves that level of care.  I have also taken moves to step all in to life as a writer, first and foremost.  It’s scary and exciting and wonderful all at once.  This book inspires me.  My writing supports and fulfills me.  It feels like the main way I want to serve right now. 

I didn’t get to see Brandi Carlile at Red Rocks, even though I had put the dates on my planner as if that would somehow magically solidify that we could get tickets.  We couldn’t.  And, it’s ok.  Maybe it’s better to hold on to the epic memories of our 2021 trip rather than trying to repeat it.  Maybe I’m justifying not being able to get tickets (or at least not being willing to pay the resale price). 

I DID add in a lot more live music and choose to add in more fun with friends as a priority.  We went to see Dar Williams locally, we joined the Avett Brothers in Chautauqua for the rocking-est show I’ve ever seen them perform in a space that seemed to have them billed as folk.  We did get to see Brandi at Woodstock and in Madison Square Garden.  I cherish these special times with Tom and with the friends who join us for our road trips!!  We even got a personalized Christmas video from BJ Barham from American Aquarium, thanks to our friends, Jenny and Bill!  That was fun!  I’m finding epic moments come in many shapes and sizes - not always what we have planned or think we would like, but there they are!   

I did not continue on with Soul Care, a group I’ve been offering in some form or another for the past 8 years.  This was a tough decision because I loved this program and the women who have gathered in it.  In many ways, it got me through the toughest parts of the pandemic as we amped up to weekly calls just to have that extra space of authentic, open-hearted connection.  But it was time for a change.  This move taught me what it means to have an integral ending, to allow space for goodbyes and all the feelings they bring, to allow for sadness and disappointment and do it anyway, because it’s time. 

I did not spend the summer boating on our lake, pausing often to rest on the waves and just hang out and read.  In fact, what we did do was sell our boat right before the 4th of July holiday weekend… nothing I would have expected.  As we often do, we got swept up in a spontaneous decision and let it go.  It fell into the realm of several things this year: “If it’s more hassle than it’s worth, let it go.”  The bi-annual maintenance, finding someone to help us launch and take out every year, finding someone to wrap it for the winter… and just not using it as often as we’d like, often feeling the burden of it looking up at us on a on a nice day, feeling like we “should” go out…  that’s not the energy we are looking to hold onto.  And so, we let it go.  It was a surprise and a relief. 

On our final spin around the lake, I cried, as I felt both the gratitude for having fulfilled this lifelong yearning of mine to own a ski boat and the longing to keep it, “just in case…,”  and I let myself feel the sadness, the gratitude, the joy of that moment itself, and the relief of unburdening one more thing calling for our limited time and energy.    

I didn’t bathe in grief all year long, I didn’t curl up into a ball and disappear, despite any number of reasons I could have.  I did allow the grief to come (did I really have a choice?) and go as it did.  I immersed in it and let it take me over.  I worked with practices and practitioners to help me in moments of intensity.  I wrote about it.  I nurtured myself the best I could and I allowed others to support me.  And I continue to meet these moments as gently as I can, accepting what is the best I can, bringing love and compassion with me. 

Some other reflections to play with:
I surprised myself with
I learned ___ about myself
I noticed
I let go of
I welcomed in
I returned to
Fresh perspectives I’ve gained or considered
I fell in love with
I was supported by
I supported
I discovered (or it discovered me)
How do I want to feel in 2023? 

What do I want to breathe life into this year?  (Ooohhh, thank you, Abby Wambach for that one!  You can hear the We Can Do Hard Things podcast on this theme of reflection here)
Is there a word that might support me, at least for the first quarter?  (I’m considering the possibility of having multiple words this year… not entirely sure yet, but I know they will make themselves known to me in time!)
All of this leads me to step into 2023 with

Your turn…   Pause.  Lovingly, gently, with compassion, look back on this past year.  Feel into the coming year.  What do you notice as you reflect on your year?  What you didn’t and did do?  What you’ve learned and how you’d like to move forward into 2023 a little more intentionally?  

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The Gift of Presence

12/29/2022

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This Christmas I had the opportunity to experience the gift that mere presence brings.  What’s possible when I shut my mouth and just listen.  Listen with an open heart and open mind, setting aside my own ideas and agendas. 

Presence like this opens doors, builds trust and safety in a way that allows others to come forward - to open up and give me an idea of what life is like for them, what is going on inside of their experience. 

When I stop nagging, badgering, interrogating, and lecturing (which, let’s be honest, NO ONE likes!  It is never helps connection or makes anything truly positive happen), love enters in.  Hearts open to one another.  We can relax into being together and be a little more real… 

It comes down to who I want to be and how I want to be.  This is where I have agency and choice. I am not pre-programmed or unable to control my own behavior and words.  Based on my values (what really matters most to me), based on my story of who I say I am, it’s up to me to do more than just pay lip service to what I say I’m all about. 

It’s up to me to actually BE the way I aspire to be.  I can also bring in lots of compassion and grace when I slip up (which I most certainly will!) - this is not about perfection.  It is about generous compassion for all. 

When I step back, silently, and allow myself to observe and see what’s going on, I might recognize the struggle someone is having.  I realize that it’s not their fault or choice.  They don’t choose to be in this struggle.  I can have compassion.  I can offer a calm presence for someone who’s feeling a little jangly to regulate with rather than adding to the angst or presenting something to fight against or feel bad about. 

I can simply offer my truly loving presence.  This allows me to hear how surprised someone is by how well they’re doing. I can hear the self-doubt that lives so close to the surface.  I can hear how little they believe in or trust themselves.  How they’re finding their way, tentatively beginning to form a new story.  Inviting, allowing them to soften to me - to trust that I am a safe place to land.  That I won’t use their admissions against them.

I can look for what’s going right, what there is to celebrate, rather than focus on what is missing or what could be.  I can follow the rhythm and flow of this group I’m with in this time… not impose my idealized story of what “should” be. 

Over the years I have ruined many special events for myself and others by letting my expectations or ideas of how things should be cloud the reality of what and who is here right now. 

I’m the one who still feels the pang of guilt over how ungraciously I responded to my sister’s massively generous gift of a handcrafted framed Holly Hobbie needlework (50 years ago!).  I was too young to appreciate what it meant for her to pour her heart, soul, and time into this beautiful piece just for me.  It wasn’t a toy. I was a brat.  And. I responded with the appropriate bratty pout for the rest of the day. 

I am the one who hit my friend, Steven. when he gave me a beautiful Breyer horse for my birthday.  The gift was more than I could bear.  Pretty sure that was the same year - 8-year-old me had some issues… 

I am the one who often feels let down after the holiday is over - the days and weeks of build-up falling hollow when everyone leaves.  Wanting more.  Wanting different.  Regret at what wasn’t. Disappointment. 

Not this year.  This year I chose differently. 

I reminded myself in my journaling and asked my husband to help me remember to appreciate what’s here.  I stayed present to the miracle we were given in being able to all be together for 2 nights and 3 days, sharing one house, sharing meals, visiting, talking, laughing till bedtime.  Wiggling through the tense moments but not blowing them up into more than they needed to be.  Staying kind even when I had to have an uncomfortable conversation.   Resting gradually in each other’s presence.  Honoring the rhythm and flow of this family.  Noticing when the “what should we DO now?” anxiety temporarily poked at me… allowing things to unfold organically rather than forcing a reading of The Grinch, a making of the gingerbread house (that is still waiting patiently in its box for when the right time), watching an old holiday show that no one but me enjoys.  Let that go.  Open to what they want.  Invite everyone into something new.  Just breathe.  Just be.  Play the kids’ Christmas music rather than my mom’s old playlist.  Be playful, lighthearted, enjoy.  Them.  For who they are.  As they are.  As we are.  In this moment. 

That way of being opened up something in me that still touches my heart.  I can almost cry as I soak in the deep appreciation for this precious time with my husband and grown sons.  There wasn’t anything too profound in our being together except that it was all profound.  To witness the initial discomfort and awkwardness melt away as we settled in to being together. To relax into noticing and allowing each of us to have our own unique ways and needs.  To hug, smile, laugh… to really stay in a place of appreciating what was, what is, what’s here, what’s true, what’s real, what’s good and wonderful.  Holding back judgment or inclination to offer unwelcome suggestions or unkind observations.  Allowing others to find their own way in life in their own time. 

Letting love guide the way, be the true foundation for our time together, for our life.  The generosity of presence is the truest gift we can offer another being. It is the greatest gift we can offer ourselves.  To listen deep within, to remember who we want to become in this next iteration, to show up to what we say we want to create with others, to be sincere in our efforts and digging in to show up in that way.  Not expecting it to be easy, perfect, or even comfortable, but allowing the unfolding. 
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This Christmas I was given the gift of connection with my family, getting to know them in a way I had not before.  Together we created the gift of presence.  My heart remains full.  ❤


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Enchantment

11/1/2022

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Last time I wrote on September 7th, it was from a place of stillness…that magical place of contemplation and inner reflection.  It was right before I went into the studio to record 111 Invitations audio book!  I am thrilled to let you know that it is now finished and became available on Audible on October 19th (the anniversary of my Mama's passing)!!   It feels really good to bring to completion a project I've dreamt of for about 6 years! Sometimes these things take time. How cool that this post is going up on 11-1!?
 
Sometimes it's a matter of finding the right people or allowing enchantment and magic to do their thing… in this case, I had no idea who could help me, how much something like this would cost, if I even had the rights to do it, etc… then all of a sudden, I connected with just the right person (Jennifer Collins - more about her later) who connected me with another “just right” person - Linda Mazur (also more about her in a bit - the 3 of us, plus Linda's husband, Jack, are cooking up some special goodness in November which we hope you'll join us for! Keep scrolling for all the details!).  
 
Both of them connected me with Scott Fitzgerald of RocVox Recording (who I already sort of knew about because he records another friend's podcast…) and things came together super easily and super quickly! The studio location?  Um, the very same office space where I held my very first Discovering A New Life Direction workshop many moons ago!  I love those times of synchronicity, flow, ease, allowing things to unfold and come together with just the right amount of effort but very little force!  
 
There’s a little touch of enchantment in that!  “Enchantment…” a word that has awakened and enlivened me since Liz Gilbert offered an opportunity to know our enchantment in a virtual retreat.  She shared that enchantment is the part of you that likes things… it’s where you get that warm, yummy feeling inside.  Things like warm cinnamon vanilla pudding or a double rainbow or a baby’s giggle are laced with enchantment.  Enchantment lives in each of us…  
 
In a time of so much disenchantment it’s more important than ever that we find ways to connect with this vibrant energy.  That we ask it to tell us what it likes, what it hates, who it wants to be around and what it hopes we never do again.  Liz invited us each to write a letter to ourselves from our enchantment using the prompt “Dear _______,  I am your enchantment and this is what I want to tell you.”  
 
In 5 minutes, I had a letter that let me know so many truths about what I’m longing for, what I need more of in my life, what I need to let go of.  For those who know me, you know I am captivated by sunsets on a daily basis… doesn’t matter that they happen ever day. They take my breath away. Same with full moons, golden leaves, puppy dogs, and hot fresh-baked cinnamon fried cakes!  My enchantment loves to dance and sit by the fire.  She loves being with people I love and making time for deep connections and playful ones too.  She hates when I overwhelm my schedule with too many things or when I compare myself to others.  
 
As other people in the group shared their letters, we heard common themes and saw that enchantment doesn’t cost millions of dollars or require a lot of time. It only requires that we stop to notice… it often lies in simple things like nature or other people.  It exudes beauty.  It’s readily accessible.  It awakens our spirit and carries hope.  It lives in fun and play.  
 
Since that day in mid-September, I have added a bit of communing with enchantment each day in my morning journaling.  I ask it what it’s got for me today.  I notice my interactions with it are more playful than even my gratitude or when I was asking Love what it would have me know.  With enchantment it’s more of a light-hearted banter.  She reminds me to lighten up and not take things too seriously, while also encouraging me not to miss the most precious moments.  I’ve turned to her on hard, sad days to see how she might accompany me even then.  She reminds me what matters most and to not be too hard on myself.  
 
She often reminds me, “Have fun!  Don’t take it or yourself too seriously! Play with it!  Have fun with it!  Let me dance through it… let inspiration come…”  On particularly hard days she holds me with “Be brave.  Stand up for you.  Don’t back down or hurt yourself to make someone else happy.  Not for one minute.  Don’t do it!  Do not abandon yourself! Let yourself breathe and live and be who you are.  Claim your life.  Claim your joy.  Love yourself.”  Another time she offered, “Thank you for finding me again.  I want to play with you.  Bring me into everything - let me be a guiding light.  It's so much more fun that way!  Let me lighten up the dark and heavy times and add sparkle and juice to the fun ones!”  She’s pretty wise, very loving, and has a great sense of humor!  
 
My invitation to you: 
Give it a try!  I invite you to take 5 minutes and write yourself a letter from your enchantment.  Start with Dear____ and see what enchantment would call you (it might be a playful nickname!), I am your enchantment and I want to tell you…   See what it likes, what it hates, who it wants to be around and with whom it doesn’t feel it can come out at all.  
 
Let this energy enliven your days and ways.  I could feel it coursing through my veins for about a month til I lost touch with it a little in the daily grind.  I’m re-connecting now and am very grateful to do so! I invite you to let enchantment light up your days.  
 
Meditation
Our meditation this week, Autumnal Walk Guided Meditation, is led by guest meditator, Laura Gavigan, Founder of Mindful Matters in Rochester, NY.  It is the perfect accompaniment for theme.  Laura guides us on a sensory-rich autumn walk.  I hope you enjoy it and that it brings you the peace and calm it brought to me. 
 
My SoundCloud library has a wide variety of meditations - check it out and see which ones call to you.  

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In the Stillness

9/7/2022

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Waking one morning recently, a beautiful stillness enveloped me.  The space embodied something between fully asleep and fully awake.  No one moved.  No thoughts stirred.  No voices or traffic interrupted this bliss.  A soft rain fell, amplifying the silence. 

Such a beautiful way to enter the day – blissful, almost mystical.  Beyond words.  Before moving with intention to alleviate the ache in my hip, allowing myself to savor the relative silence.  The silence within comforting and soothing my whole being.   Feeling open…expansive… receptive.  Ready to receive the unfolding of the day.  Appreciative of this time before the happenings of the day, the week rush in on me. 

Stillness – a solitary momentary sanctuary for the whole being – space for the soul to rest and abide.  In this place there is nothing to figure out.  Nothing to do.  Only to BE.  Deep peace, deep contentment wash over me as I feel alive, but gentle.  Not activated. 

Strong satisfaction here – I can take in and appreciate the beauty of our home, the sweetness of the space we have created.  The serenity of this space.  I breathe it in.  I love this space.  It reflects me.  It holds and supports us well.  I am content here.  My soul is happy here.  My creativity thrives here.
 
Today I simply receive this gift.  And know that it is enough. 
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In the Stillness
 
In the stillness
the answers come,
truths are unearthed,
promises remembered.
 
In the stillness
prayers are answered,
hearts are restored,
dreams fostered,
visions captured.
 
In the stillness
the oneness becomes clear,
connection to self deepens,
universal threads intertwine.
 
In the stillness
the magic lies
waiting for you to visit
and reside here,
for however many moments.
 
© Barb Klein, 2016, from 111 Invitations: Step into the Full Richness of Life

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Revival!

8/31/2022

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Revival - an improvement in the condition or strength of something. (as defined by Oxford Languages).

When I first thought about “revival,” I thought it meant “brought back to life.” I suppose that would certainly be considered an “improvement in the condition or strength of something,” wouldn’t it?  So, I am going to stick with that felt sense of the word. 

I’ve had a month of revival, and I must say I’m emerging with a fresh energy, a renewed and deepened connection with myself, and a fresh enthusiasm to engage with life and this next chapter in a beautiful way. I’m looking at my work with fresh eyes and a willingness to shake things up.

In July I got a very strong internal hit to step away, pull back from obligations and work that wasn’t filling me any longer. That hit also came with a strong desire to add in more fun, more play, more rest, more joy.  And so, I did.

I cleared my calendar of appointments that could wait til later.  I bought tickets to live music, which I have learned in recent years is a thing that fills my soul and is something my husband and I enjoy doing together.  I jumped into the Great Rhythm Revival (that “thing” I mentioned in my last newsletter) very spontaneously and a little uncertainly.  I booked a trip to Omega Institute to meet a friend I’d only known by Zoom and phone for 2 ½ years – we’d co-facilitated 2 online retreats in that time but we had never actually been in the same room together, never shared a hug or a deep sit-down face-to-face conversation!  I bought tickets to the Avett Brothers in Chautauqua and then added to a day pass so that we could listen to Scott Avett’s non-lecture about spirituality, faith, and creativity which led us to add an extra night to our stay and invite a couple of friends to join us.  I found a gorgeous simple peaceful cottage on the lake to hold us for those nights. 

I’ve been on the road A LOT!  Probably away from home more than not this past month. But, because it was fueled by joy, I feel filled up rather than depleted.  Revived, if you will! 

So, this Great Rhythm Revival… what the heck is that?  I wasn’t sure other than knowing I was jumping into some peace, love, and granola kind of happening with drumming, dancing, and fire.  I went with Sandi Sabene, my partner for this year’s retreat and a friend who I haven’t had much chance to play with and a dear friend of hers.  I could have (and would have in the past) felt like a third wheel, an outsider, especially since these two are beloved members of this community that has formed over many years.  But, I didn’t.  Why?  Because I went in with a solid sense of myself and a strong ability and desire to take care of my needs during our time together.  I let go of FOMO and gave myself permission to listen to my body, heart, and spirit – to nap on our porch rather than join a workshop, to dance rather than write, to go to bed rather than go to the fire.  To say “yes” to me rather than to other people’s expectations or desires. 

I also gave myself full permission to let loose and find the carefree, joyful me who was so hungry to come out and play!  To close my eyes and drum even though I don’t really know how.  To join the transformative dance workshops and let my body move as it wanted to move (which was way more than it has in the past year or more due to a lengthy bout of frozen shoulder).  To say “yes” to the body paint (a little the first night and all in the second) before the dance party!  To dance in the front row and not care that I’m so tall.  To sweat.  To jump into the pond and float with women I was just meeting for the first time.  To talk to strangers – to dare to believe that I might belong.  To meet new people and to buy my ticket for next year because I know this is good medicine for my soul! 

During that weekend I found or reconnected with parts of myself that had been sleeping for too long.  My nervous system settled, awakened, healed in ways it hasn’t in a very long time.  I was nourished and fueled on all levels.  The conditions and strength of my something was very much improved! 

I returned home with a solid connection to my true self. I felt grounded and strong.  I had crystal clarity, which allowed me to stand on my ground and face some BS that came my way almost immediately.  Finding ourselves and letting ourselves free is vital to our life force energy.  It’s critical to be solid in our own core in order to not be buffeted around by life and other people. 

I feel like I’m in the gooey phase of transformation/transmutation now… like the caterpillar in the cocoon, in the dark, but not in a bad way.  There’s been a strong desire and need to go within, to find quiet and stillness in order to hear the whispers of my soul, the calls for what’s next. 

I don’t know what’s next, and that’s ok.  In this space I don’t have to know.  I only have to be open.  To listen deeply to my heart and soul – to follow the inner nudges that do know.  To sit with the not knowing and allow things to unfold. To catch and follow the fresh inspiration when it comes. 

This phase is calling me to let go of things I’ve done for a long time, and trust that I will be able to create anew when the time is right.  I’m not trying to box anything in to what it used to be or what I’ve always done. I’m not trying to force or figure anything out.  Aaahhh… it feels like a breath of fresh air that I can expand into rather than a stagnant stale container cramping me in. 

On my solo drive to Omega, I listened to great podcasts (Cheryl Strayed on We Can Do Hard Things – 2 episodes – really lit my fire!).  I listened closely and paid attention to what their conversation awakened within me.  I longed to devote more time to my writing and for writing time with Cheryl.  I’m taking steps to honor this deep knowing.  Shortly after returning home, I saw that shel is offering a writing workshop in Omega!  I am returning before too long!!  Opening to one of my core gifts, to one of my principal practices and mediums, to inspiration, to a place and space that nurtures and nourishes me in a deep, deep way!  I’m excited! 

Listening to Scott Avett talk about not wanting to be boxed in or blocked out by labels, I felt a deep resonance in my core. Scott spoke of the need to be real, even in front of other people.  To let content arise from lived experience.  As I witnessed the band shake off any perception that they were simply a “folk band” with a strong rock and roll show, I smiled, imagining their intention.  “You think we’re folk?  Watch this!”  It was an amazing performance, coming from the authenticity of the band members.  Perhaps the best show I’ve ever seen from them. Why?  Because they were letting themselves out to shine and play!  They were being moved from the inside out! 

I have many reflections living within me from this month of revival. I have so much gratitude for those who flicked me awake and to myself for being there for it!  For showing up, ready and willing to be awakened, ready and willing to take a risk, ready and willing to break free, just a little bit more, letting go of some of the cares about what others think of me or expect from me in order to more fully honor myself. 

Sounds selfish, doesn’t it?  And yet, I have no doubt that all of this revival will allow me to serve the world in a better and stronger way than I have before.  I don’t know exactly what that means, but I’m ready and excited to witness and be part of the unfolding. 

Your turn…
What’s feeling old and stale to you?  Where can you shake things up a bit, in a really good way?  Where might you bring in more joy and playfulness to your days?  Where can you add in fun?  What can you cancel or reschedule that maybe doesn’t have to happen right now? What truly matters most to you right now – at this moment in your life? What parts of you have been sleeping or gone missing for too long?  What parts have not yet been discovered?  Where would you like to begin your revival? 

If you'd like a short meditation practice to support you, I've recorded Revival just for you! 


If the Great Rhythm Revival sounds good to you, check it out and join me next year!  As I was promised, you won’t be disappointed and you’ll likely love it! 

Want to give yourself a little revival much sooner than next August?  Join me and Sandi Sabene (she was the friend I went to Revival with and has facilitated drum circles and creative expression experiences for decades) at Let Your Light Shine Women’s Retreat Sept. 23-27.  She and I are lit up and so excited to be co-creating this magical 5-day experience together!  

Five spots remain.  This retreat may not happen again (at least not in its current form), so if this version is calling you, now is the time to jump in!  Don’t put it off til “next year!”  

I just don't know for sure what's coming.  I know there will be more retreats. I know there will be fresh and inspired offerings... so, stay tuned as more is revealed over the coming days and months!  This is where I am -  truly am in a space of wonder, curiosity, and possibility, discovering for myself what will be next! I'm excited!  And, you'll be the first to know! 

​And, as you can see from the rest of this post, I feel like it's always a good idea to seize the opportunities as they come rather than wait!  

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It Only Takes One

7/20/2022

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Sometimes, I notice, it only takes one phone call, one conversation to knock me off my game and take me out for several hours.  Or, one call or conversation to bring me back in, to lift me up, to reawaken some hope in a weary spirit. 

One too familiar tone can begin the spin of “here we go again.”  One breath can re-ground and remind us we don’t have to go there. We don’t know what the future holds. 

One choice or decision can change the trajectory of a life, for better or for worse.

One birth and a world changes forever with the infusion of new life, new hopes, new dreams.  Who is this little person and what will they bring? 

One death changes everything in a heartbeat.  The profound grief sweeps in accompanied by a strong cry to live.  To somehow honor this life that is gone.  To make meaning out of the meaningless. 

One small smile and conversation can lead to a lifelong friendship.

One connection leads to the next, to an introduction to another.  One vulnerable conversation invites others to share what they otherwise might have held close. 

One “yes” can open doors to possibility. 

One breath can bring me back to ground, calm a racing heart, offer the pause I need to find a fresh perspective.  Open my mind to consider what I otherwise might have missed.

One label changes nothing, yet sometimes feels like it changes everything.  Does it change who a person is?  No.  But, can it limit options?  Yes.  Can it open doors?  Possibly. We do not know. 

Our lives our made up of so many “ones” linked together.  Each moment offering opportunity and invitation.  These moments matter because they come together to create the tapestry of your life.

One stranger lending a hand might turn a life around.  One trustworthy person who listens with an open heart.  One person who sees something you yourself cannot – who lends their hope, belief and vision to you as you find your way. 

One tear can open the floodgates, releasing a necessary and cleansing release.  One tissue is not enough. 

One smile or hug can soften my heart, soften my day.  One shared breath can open a portal to hope. 
One thought (if you catch it) leads to a screenplay, a blog, the next NYT bestseller, a sweet love letter.  If you say “yes.” 

One more thing coming at you can feel like an avalanche of overwhelm.  Letting go of one thing or even taking one step back may lighten your load. 

One dollar.  One dream.  Perhaps another ticket in the recycling bin (most likely, but c’mon, sometimes you gotta try!).  Perhaps an epic opportunity to shower good upon the world. 

I have always said (and truly believed) that if my book touched just one life, it would be enough.  I am glad and grateful for every one reader who lets me know it has. 

One keystroke.  One “send” can open or close a door.  One enrollment – one program – one retreat can alter the way you live your life, the way you see things, who is part of your world. 

One step to set your soul free.  To listen to the inner call that says, “Go for it! What have you got to lose?”  One step to light your inner flame and to let yourself be more you.  These are the steps I long to take more and more of in my days. 

Sometimes it only takes one. 

One person makes a difference – just by showing up as they are.

One moment can change a life, for better or for worse. 

We only need to face this one, right here, right now.  The one that is before us.  Just this one.  It’s enough.  We don’t have to know how the story will end.  Because we can’t.  So, as always, I invite myself into this moment.  The one right here, right now.  The one that is guaranteed – not the flimsy one that may or may not ever come to be.  “Start close in” as David Whyte says in his beautiful invitation.  Right here.  Right now. 

One moment at a time.  That’s all you need to do to move through your day.  Breathe into the spaciousness and possibility of the many moments that exist within these 24 hours.  If you can be present to each moment, be with the people you are with, I promise you it will be richer and you will be wiser and more fulfilled from having been here.  Just breathe.  Take it slow.  Take it steady.  Just one.  One moment.  One breath.  One smile.  One shriek.  One gaze.  One person at a time.  Be with that. 
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What one’s are you noticing these days, for better or worse?  What’s one thing you can do that will comfort or nourish you today?  


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Love, What Would You Have Me Know This Day?

5/24/2022

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Thank you, Liz Gilbert, for this beautiful question (you can hear Liz talk about it on her recent podcast conversation with Glennon Doyle here). 

I’ve added this question at the end of my journaling each morning.  I write the question and I listen and write down the response I receive, simply allowing the words to flow through my pen.  I LOVE this question because it gets me out of my head and into the energy of Love itself.  An energy that we need to connect with more than ever.  An energy that is being shouted over by voices of fear, hatred, and division.  An energy that lives within each one of us, but may come through as more subtle or quiet. 




Although Love also comes through fiercely at times – in the voice of a Mama Bear defending her child.  Or a leader in social justice who just can’t take the hatred and division one more minute.  In my own voice as I try to break through the prevailing messages about addiction and recovery. 

As I’ve written this question for the past week, some themes have emerged in the responses that come through.
  1. I am loved. Every message includes an explicit “I love you.”
  2. I am not alone.  Love says, “I am right here,” and “You do not have to figure all of this out!”
  3. We’ve got this (whatever “this” is).
  4. Breathe – lots and lots of messages to slow down and breathe.
  5. Reassurance that I am held and encouragement to show up and live.

A couple of my favorite messages (though, really, I love them all!):

Day One - A message of surrender:

“Surrender…for all of it.  Your health.  Big life decisions.  Your sons’ lives.  The work you do with people.  Surrender.  Get out of the way.  Let me in – let me work through you.  Show up where you are called and as you feel called.  Trust that you will be led.  Surrender – save yourself the energy for where it is needed.  Act when you get the nudges.  Do your part, of course.  But you don’t need to do my part or all the parts.  You can trust the people to show up for their own lives.  You, my dear, are not the benevolent knower of all things.  You, my love, do not have anyone else’s answers.  You’re off the hook.  I love you.  Rest easy.”

Day Two - A message of trust and leaning in in uncertain times.  I needed to hear this.  As I wrote last week in “No Pressure.  Presence”, every time is an uncertain time.  It feels extra uncertain these days with so much chaos, division, and devastation in the world:

“I’m right here.  You are wrapped in so much love, even in the unknown time.  Lean into me.  Lean into your family of people who love you so very much.  Let yourself be held and supported.  And LIVE.  Live with the urgency that comes from this day, from appreciating the life that’s right here, right now even when you don’t know what’s next.  And, regardless of what’s next, believe in your body’s ability to heal – remember that.  Trust it.  Allow it.  You get to write your story of this adventure.  And, right now that means to just take life one day, one moment, at a time.  None of us knows how long we have so don’t miss what’s right here… Live.  Love.  Honor and care for yourself, and don’t miss the beauty that is available even in the hard and scary times.  You never know what’s possible.  I love you.”

By taking the time for these short communications with Love, I am able to tap into a different energy from what I might find out there in the outside world.  I am able to listen to the language of my heart and soul.  I am reminded of things I already know deep down inside.  My mind quiets a bit.  My nervous system relaxes a bit.  At least for a moment. 

These moments build on one another and I expand my capacity to bring love out into the world.  It softens me.  It opens my heart.  It emboldens me to speak out where in the past I might have stayed silent – to speak up where people are being harmed.  To stand up for what I believe in.  To strengthen and build relationships.   I feel filled with courage and compassion.
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Your Invitation:
I’d love for you to give it a try.  Take a moment and ask, “Love, what would you have me know this day?” Ask it whenever you like - as a daily practice or when you're facing a challenge.  When you're struggling or unsure.  Ask.  Listen.  See what comes through. 

Here's a meditation to support you.  Love, What Would You Have Me Know This Day? 

Share if you like – I do believe these messages are Universal ones meant to be heard by many. 
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How does it feel to take this time to connect with and listen to Love?  How might this inquiry benefit you?  

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X is for Excitement (and other almost X words)

4/28/2022

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​Today I am finding myself mostly sitting with lots of questions, and not so much to say… and I’m letting that be ok! The theme IS Question (Almost) Everything, after all!  😏

My question in this #AtoZchallenge is about excitement and it came to me when I was walking along the beach watching kids being kids!  Why is it ok for kids to scream, jump, play, roughhouse and act all sorts of crazy but not for adults?  How is it that somewhere along the way we learned that adults don’t do that – that we need to be refined, quiet, proper? 

Did you learn this too? Or is it just me? 

I’m working on letting my playful self free more often and not worrying as much, but this conditioning can be hard to unlearn.  Something to notice and an opportunity for growth. 

Why do we hold back our excitement in life, not daring to let it out or even feel it sometimes? 

"To be more childlike, you don't have to give up being an adult. The fully integrated person is capable of being both an adult and a child simultaneously. Recapture the childlike feelings of wide-eyed excitement, spontaneous appreciation, cutting loose, and being full of awe and wonder at this magnificent universe."  - Wayne Dyer

Thank you, Wayne!  I have always appreciated the way you look at life and help me to find a fresh perspective! 

Exploration – what thoughts and questions are you exploring these days?  What new ways of being are you trying out?  How is the energy of exploring different from “working on?” 

Examine – Have any of the posts you’ve read in the A to Z challenge (here or elsewhere) raised any beliefs, ideas, or ways of thinking or being that you want to examine in your own life?  What stands out to you? 

And why don’t I have more to say about these topics?? 

Extra credit and appreciation for you if you take a minute to enrich our lives by sharing in the comments! 

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Whims, What Ifs, and Wins

4/27/2022

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Whims
Oxford Languages defines a Whim as “a sudden desire or change of mind, especially one that is unusual or unexplained.” ("she bought it on a whim")

Reading that brings a sense of delight into my whole being and a smile to my face!  For some I imagine it might bring a different reaction.  However, as I reflect back on my life some of the very best things have happened “on a whim!” 

When I first thought about writing about this word for today’s #AtoZChallenge, I had the sense that the word is considered to be light, airy, and maybe fanciful – something not to be taken too seriously or even dismissed.  How does “whim” land for you? 

I’ll share just a couple of my big life whims (which also land solidly in my “win” column as things that fill me with such joy):

1. Buying my first horse, Sport, a semi-wild 5-year-old, breathtakingly beautiful grey Arab, who was very far from the ideal first horse…and yet, I had to have him.  I could feel it to my core – he excited me, he scared me, I had no idea how to work with him,he was too small and too excitable for the dressage showing I wanted to do.  And yet… my heart and soul knew we were meant to be together. 
     
At the time I was newly married. When I tried to do the logical thing of figuring out whether we            could afford him, it was clear that we could not – there was $16 left before groceries.  And yet… 
 
I was 25.  I had wanted a horse my entire life.  My husband was on board, even though it made no logical sense.  Somehow we found a way.   
 
It was one of the best moves of my life, and I have zero regrets, even though this choice certainly contributed significantly to the pile of debt we had to work harder to get out from under over the years.  You can see this beautiful creature and read our story in The Beauty of NOT being Logical!  Whims are NOT logical! 
 
2. Going alone to Australia for a 2-week writing cruise…  I am not an adventurous solo traveler.  When I could not find anyone to join me for this trip, I was ready to let it go. And yet (maybe these words are a sign of a whim!)… I could feel the longing, the desire, the need to go.  I couldn’t satisfy logical answers about why or what I expected to get.  I had never before agreed  to share a tiny box-like room with a stranger, and I was scared to death.  

And yet… I figured out how to make it happen. New Year’s Eve 2011 sent me off for one of the best adventures of my life.  I met people who are still dear to me. I connected with myself and fed my writer dream (though I still have not written the book that was stirring in me at that time).  Zero regrets.

I do many things “on a whim.”  When I see retreats, programs, teachers, or groups, I often seem to know immediately whether this is a “yes” or a “no.”  Often very big decisions happen on a whim, and in retrospect carry zero regret.  It was on a whim that I applied for and got my last full-time job at a time when I had no thought of going back to work.  Something inside of me knew the time was right to take this leap, even though I was largely unprepared! 

I am grateful my husband shares this spontaneity – most of our moves have been out of the blue, on a whim, and sometimes right after we declared we were not moving.  Actually, I met him on a whim – on a night I had sworn off men forever. 

So, are whims fanciful moves of the airheaded?  Or are they divine inspiration or soul guidance?  I have no idea what the right answer is, but from my perspective they are most assuredly guidance, intuition, knowing, and they lead me to such beautiful richness! 

What Ifs
Often times “what if’s” keep us stuck or paralyzed for fear of what might go wrong.  What if it doesn’t work out?  What if this was the wrong move?  And, don’t get me wrong, these questions live within me even in most of my whims… the bigger the decision the louder the what if!

What if we should wait?  What if that other program is better? What if our hearts aren’t big enough to love another child?  See how analysis paralysis could set in?  Waiting, worrying, looking for the perfect moment, wishing we could have certainty before making a move… we might never do anything! 

The closer we get to the thing that’s most important to the soul, the scarier it can be!  Some of my strongest anxiety has come in when things felt most right.  So strange, but maybe the intensity rouses the part that wants to keep us safe… anything to prevent a big mistake! 

And yet, what if we looked at our what if’s another way?  What if we could connect with the wonder, awe, possibility? What if this actually works out?  What if things are amazing? What if we dared to dream or hope?  These what ifs can pull us forward, even into the scary unknown, riding on the wings of hope and desire! 

Both sides of the what if are always available to us, because as we looked at in the recent post about Unknown and Uncertainty, no one can know with 100% certainty what the future holds.  So, we always have to be willing to weigh the risks, consider the pros and cons, and feel into whether something is a yes or a no for us.  With every excitement there is likely anxiety. 

Wins
When I think about wins, they have nothing to do with material gain, beating someone else out for something, or even necessarily having anything wonderful to show the world.  Sometimes I can’t prove a win to anyone.  Sometimes the win has nothing to do with the outcome and everything to do with how I showed up along the way. 

To me, a win brings a sense of contentment or fulfillment at a deep, deep level.  A win is when I feel in integrity, in alignment with my soul’s imperative. 

The whims I’ve shared here are all wins.  I’m sure there are others that haven’t gone so well, and it’s a win that they’re not coming to mind right now. 
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How about you?  What’s your relationship with whims, what ifs, and wins?  Please share. 


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Unknown and Uncertainty

4/25/2022

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Sitting with these ideas for today’s #AtoZChallenge.  We live in a world of uncertainty, and we are always stepping into the unknown, individually and collectively.  Depending on what that unknown is can fill us with excitement or anxiety, hope or dread. 

Sometimes it’s clear that we are in a state of transition – leaving a job or relationship, graduating college, getting married, moving across the country, having a baby…  in these cases, we know we are leaving behind a familiar life to enter into a new one.  What we don’t always see so readily is that we are always in transition. Our bodies, our reality, our relationships, minds and ideas are continually morphing and evolving. 

Other people fill us with their fears, worries, or faith, which may or may not be helpful.  Each of us is living in the unknown, uncertain of what’s to come.  Most of us don’t like to admit or accept that.  So, we do what we can to control, to create some level of imagined certainty.

We make decisions and choices, take actions trying to ensure the outcome we desire, unwilling to admit we can only take the next best step for the best chance of the things we hope for.  There is freedom in accepting that truth. 

The only things that are known or certain are those things that have already happened. 

And, so, what keeps us going?  Why do we continue to show up?  I guess because the unknown also offers the possibility of things beyond our imagination.  Our negativity bias causes us to focus on what could go wrong, but at the same time our spirit and soul call us to what could be wonderful or amazing.

Knowing is actually way less interesting than we admit.  Who would watch a multi-hour sports event or movie if they knew how it was going to end?  (Well, unless, like me, you’ve seen it before and you don’t remember or you don’t care because the story is so enthralling!). 

We spend hours of worry about how our lives or our loved ones’ lives will go.  We humans are fascinating!  Playing this game of strategy and faith, effort and flow, making moves, taking chances, riding on hope.  And, there it is again, that mighty force that some call weak. 

Hope encourages us, supports us to say yes to the proposal, to take the stage, to leave the toxic relationship and head out on our own.  To put down the drink or drug that has consistently brought comfort to see if there might be a better life without it.  The hope that tomorrow will be a better day nudges us forward.  Something has to push us, pull us to leave the known and risk the vast uncertainty of the unknown.  To wake up and step into a new day and see where it takes you. 

“When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for you to stand upon or you will be taught to fly.”
― Patrick Overton, The leaning tree

My favorite days are “Let’s see where the spirit takes us” days.  Days with absolutely no plans, and where we let go of control, just checking in moment by moment to see what we’d like to do.  What we want to eat?  Is this a time to rest, read, or go for a walk?  What adventure calls to our hearts?  What might be fun?  What would feel comforting and nourishing? 

To find the ability to flow with it, gently, sweetly, one moment at a time.  Not needing an agenda.  Not needing to know.  It can be uncomfortable, but it can also be wonderfully delightful when I pause and listen within, feel into the longing of my heart and soul, let go of the worry of wasted time. 

This is where I sit right now.  Is this a day to relax and write?  To bake?  To go to a movie?  In the sweetness of no schedule, I don’t know.  And, I am savoring the unknown.  It gives me permission to decide, to choose, to see… These are my favorite days. The ones not dictated by meetings, classes, work, commitments, or appointments.  They are a rare gift in a busy world.  “Seizing” this day does not mean it has to be productive or anything other than what it is.  It only asks me to show up and be with it, as it is, as it unfolds. 

And, yet, feeling the uncertainty of our future, having just watched the memorial video of a young man gone too son, compels me to invite us all to live a life we will remember.  To love openly, to care deeply, to hug our people, to capture memories, and make new ones.  This life is so precious because of its uncertainty.  We don’t have to strive to make things happen, but we don’t want to miss what’s here. 

What grounds you as you find yourself swirling in the midst of uncertainty?  What helps you stay steady as you step into the great unknown?  What practices do you have that hold you most reliably when times are tough?  For me, meditation, morning pages, yoga, getting outdoors in the beauty of nature bring me home, and connecting with those I love is critical. 

What does it mean to you to live a life you will remember?  What’s calling you? What feels most meaningful and important these days?  Has that changed over the years?  I know, for me, I have little desire to go back to how I used to be when I was much younger.  And I do long to step into my next chapter from a place of purpose and joy. 

A few recommendations and invitations for you:
Katrina Kenison writes beautifully about life and its various stages, looking at transitions and life changes.  I have recently finished Magical Journey: An Apprenticeship in Contentment, a beautiful book for women in midlife, changing roles and relationships with growing children, finding themselves again after career and parenting change.  I highly recommend this as well as The Gift of an Ordinary Day: A Mother’s Memoir of Letting Go.  Both books and her blogs, which are beautiful and thought-provoking, call us to be present to the everyday moments as our lives and relationships grow, evolve, and become their next version. 
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Here are a couple of musical accompaniments for this life journey:
The Nights by Avicii – “Live a life you will remember!”
I Did It All by Vince Myers 


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