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An Invitation to Reflect as You Move Forward

6/13/2020

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In the past 3 months, our world and our lives have changed in epic and unprecedented ways.  There is no "going back" to anything.  We can only move forward into a new chapter.  As we do, we each have the opportunity right now to pause, to reflect, to choose who we want to become, to choose what role we want to play in the new story. 

We don't know what the future holds - ever - though it certainly feels more true right now than ever before.  This can feel super unsettling.  There is no road-map for us to follow as we step forward.  We crave certainty, and yet we find time and again that the only certainty is that things will change.  

So, now what?  I invite you to spend some time with these questions... reflecting, sitting with them, and maybe journaling about any that interest you.  Give yourself a few minutes of free writing - allow your pen to keep moving across the page without stopping so that you can tap beneath the surface and find your way to deeper insights.  How long you write on any question is up to you, but you might try starting with 3 minutes and see what emerges.

We will be best able to step into the world in a grounded way when we have taken the time to get centered in ourselves. Important wisdom will come from within and beyond  - a wisdom that can best be accessed in the quiet moments of a pause and reflect. 

Offer yourself this gift.  Take a moment to center yourself.  Take a few deep breaths. Close your eyes. Maybe put your hands on your heart and earnestly consider these questions:   


In the past 3 months...
1. What have you learned about yourself?

2. What have you learned about life and our world?

3. What has revealed itself as important to you?

4. What are you ready or willing to leave behind?  What does not serve you?  What no longer feels as important as it once did?  What old beliefs or stories are ready to be discarded?

5. What would you like to carry forward?  What has emerged during this time as something you don't want to forget about, take for granted, or stop doing?

6. What do you want to remember so that you don't go back to sleep, trying to "go back to normal?"  It's so easy to slip back into old patterns, habits, and ways of thinking.  Taking the time to reflect on this question and write out your answers will help keep you connected to any new insights you've had.  

7. What is essential to you?  What are your true priorities? What really matters?  A friend recently noted, "We only get so many heartbeats."  Let's let our moments and lives reflect our values, our desires, our priorities.

As we step into this next chapter:
8.Who do you want to become?  You might reflect on this in terms of "I want to become someone who..." paying particular attention to the qualities you'd like to cultivate, the values you'd like to embody and reflect in your words and actions.  

9. What is your vision for a better future for your kids, grandkids and their grandkids?  Paint a picture of the future life you imagine, thinking about humanity, our planet, how we interact with one another... whatever comes up for you as important.  

10. What commitments will you make right now to be part of a better tomorrow?  For yourself, for your family, your community, your country, other people, animals, and the planet.  

11. Knowing that you are no good to yourself, to anyone else, or to any cause that you care about unless you take good care of yourself, what promise will you make to yourself right now regarding your own self-care?  Think about your body, mind, heart, and spirit as you consider this.  Which area(s) most need your attention and TLC, and is there one area, that if tended to, supports each of the other 3 areas? 

Would you love some support?  Consider joining Soul Care: A Self-Care Sanctuary if you would appreciate a weekly refuge to connect with others who are dedicating this time to strengthen their own self-care practice.  It's hard to do this work alone!  Together is so much better!!  


The opportunity is here for us to let these devastating, unsettling experiences matter for the better.  Let them lead us into despair, but let them call us forward into possibility.  

We are at a turning point, individually and collectively, and together we can turn the tide for a better, more healthy, more just, more peaceful, and more sustainable tomorrow.  I truly believe this.  

This will not be a quick fix or an easy turnabout.  People will resist.  You will likely resist.  The struggle will be real.  AND, the struggle will be worth it.  Trying to go back to the old ways will show us that they no longer work for so many reasons.  

After you've done your inner work, find those who can teach you and support you.  Those who can help you reveal your blind spots. Those who help you to discover new perspective.  Those who can help you shed old beliefs and old stories. 


Then, let's go forward together.  Let's rise up from the destruction and build anew, imagine anew, and create anew.  

What do you stand for?  How strongly are you willing to stand upon that as you act, speak, and create?  What possibility are you willing to consider, even if it seems unlikely or impossible, admitting to yourself that you do not know how things will turn out? 

I'm with you!  Let's get started... one step at a time...committing to be in this for the long haul.  

Feeling unsettled in these tumultuous times? 
Join me for Light on the Hill's 2-part series: Uncertainty and Trust which begins this Tuesday, June 16th.  I will be one of the panelists in the June 23rd conversation.  


I'd love to hear any reflections you'd like to share below in the comment section.  




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What Do You Love?

5/8/2020

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Now wait… before you read on,… pause.   Take a breath.  Maybe close your eyes and put your hands on your heart.  Get curious.  With an open mind and an open heart, ask, with genuine interest… what do I love? Then see what rises up.  Be willing to be surprised.  What DO you love??
 
Recently I posed this question to a group of women who may not often think about this, particularly in the context I asked it.  Also, I asked it in the middle of a global pandemic at a time when many of us are feeling weary, worried, unsettled, and uncertain.  I asked moms of kids who struggle with substance use disorder –what do you love about your son or daughter?  What are their best qualities? 

Lots of women replied, naming so many beautiful qualities their kids embody, acknowledging that it’s been awhile since they’ve reflected on these aspects of kids who are often associated with pain and struggle.  Which was exactly my point in asking the question.  Not to pretend that the horrendous experiences aren’t there, but to remember that beneath this disease, there is still a loving, caring, kind, humorous, creative, generous being. 

If there is a person in your life with whom you have a challenging or complicated relationship, you might take a moment to consider what qualities you love in this person.  

Why am I asking you now at a time when there’s so much we don’t like, so much we are worried, scared, or discombobulated about?? 

I find it really helpful to remember that the whole messy mix can be true at the same time.  It’s not all or nothing, black or white, good or bad.  Rarely does life present itself in a neat package despite our mind’s desire to simplify it that way. 

We look at what we love, not to erase or to pretend that the painful, uncomfortable, less desirable things aren’t also here.  We do this to see that there’s room for it all.  That it can ALL be here, at the same time, in the same reality, in the same heart.  We don’t have to choose what we hate or what we love, what we’re for or what we’re against, what we want to lean into or what we want to eradicate forever.  We can be with it all.  You can love the sunshine and warmth, remembering that beach in your happy place, even as you cringe at the snow that is here when it shouldn’t be! 

It’s a simple practice to wonder and to notice from time to time.  And, so, I ask you, even in your sadness, despair, worry, or fear, to consider, remember or discover the part of you that loves.

Right now… consider, what do you love? 

About yourself? What are your best qualities? (let's start here... and, if you go no further, that will be more than enough!) 

About the situation you find yourself in? 

About life?

About the person or people who challenge you deeply? 

What do you love to do? Eat? Experience? 

Who do you adore, and what is it about them that you love?

What do you love to be? Do? Have? 

Feel into it with all of your senses – what images, thoughts, scents, feelings emerge?  What brings a smile to your face or lights you up inside? 

What brings a sweet “aaahhhh….?”

For me, a few things that come to mind right now that I love are sunsets; lakes and oceans; “The Grinch;” Snoopy; the smell of a bonfire or fresh-baked bread; sunshine and warm, fresh air; laughter; deep honest connections;  the smell of a horse farm and feeling my body sway with a horse; and helping other people light up! 

Now, let's be honest... it might be way easier to know what we don’t like, what we wish were different, even what we hate…  And if that’s where your mind goes, then start there.  When we’re deep in the muck, it can be hard to see out.  Then, take a moment and look at the flip side.  The opposite of what you hate is likely what you love or what you’re longing for. 

Let it all be here.  There is no need to jump over the uncomfortable, the painful, the sad or scary to get to the happy, peaceful, joyful feelings.  We have the capacity to hold it all in these hearts of ours. 

When we can touch in with what we love, we soften, if only for a moment.  Something inside of us stirs.   We awaken maybe a long-forgotten spark.  We connect with something deep and true. 

From this place, maybe we allow ourselves to dream or desire.  Or maybe we allow ourselves to simply accept someone else as they are, even with the parts we don’t like or wish weren’t there.  Maybe for a minute we are able to see the essential goodness in another person. Maybe we energize ourselves enough to take that next step. 

What do you love? 
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Feel into it.  Awaken your heart.  And, then please share in the comments and let’s sprinkle some love around today! 

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Maybe Time Running Out is a Gift...

2/6/2020

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“Maybe time running out is a gift.  I’ll work hard til the end of my shift. And give you every second I can find…” – Jason Isbell – “If We Were Vampires”

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How does this land for you?  This reality that time is running out.  That life won’t last forever, no matter how much we want to pretend it will – not for you or for those you love.  When this reality smacks you in the face (a death, a diagnosis), for a minute you wake up and choose differently.  But, then, if you’re like most of us, you go back to business as usual… 
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My hope is to help us each wake up just a little bit more.  To choose the life we want to live.  To prioritize the way we spend our precious time and energy.  To decide who gets to be part of our days – not just by default because they are here, but because with this person around, life is better. 

My hope is that you will begin to take some of those things off of your bucket list or out of your dream box and move toward them.  In some small way.  Even if you can’t do “the big thing” yet, how can you breathe a little life into that thing you desire, that trip you want to take, that place you want to see, that thing you want to (and know you are meant to) create?  

This just doesn’t have to be hard, but it does require that you show up.  Show up for your life, for your dreams, for your visions, your hopes, and be willing to hold onto them tenderly and lovingly as you plant seeds and take baby steps forward.

This is particularly important if and when your life includes a fair bit of darkness, chaos, and fearful uncertainty, as mine does.  I've found that living within that reality has compelled me to savor life's sweetness and to embrace my life more fully maybe even more than I would if things were more steady.  I know in any moment tragedy can strike (whether I'm enjoying my life or not) and that death will come, but for now, while I'm alive and able, I choose to live. I choose to enjoy.  

Things that seem to happen spontaneously often aren’t spur of the moment at all, but rather a result of so many seeds being planted, steps taken, dreams held over the years and decades. 

For instance, my dream of owning a horse took 25 years to come into reality. It was something I wanted for as long as I can remember, something I schemed about each year as I put “horse” boldly on my Christmas list and laid out the plans of how our backyard was definitely big enough and the second garage would provide the perfect stall.. no matter that we lived in a suburban neighborhood that maybe had ordinances against dreams like this.  To me, that girl who was horse crazy, that didn’t matter – I just felt in my bones that I was meant to have a horse.  My dad, unfortunately, didn’t seem to agree…  and so, I rode when I could, I cleaned stalls in trade for a free lease, I made friends with an adult who could drive me to the barn and who’d ride with me.  When I was older, I continued to conjure ways to ride and train in exchange for services I could provide.  And, finally, when the horse who was meant to be mine came along, I played with my finances in a way that “worked” and talked with my fellow dream conspirator, my husband, who said, “Let’s go for it!” 

You see, I had never let go of this dream, even though it very much felt out of reach for me.  I kept it alive in my heart. I watered it with longing.  I didn’t work really hard to make it come to be, but I was ready when the opportunity came around.  And, if you read my other post about Sport, you know that this “dream horse” was NOT ideal in so many ways… a first time owner should probably not buy a slightly too small, definitely too hot and fiery beast that only one person on the farm (not me) could handle.  The logic didn’t matter.  My heart said, “Yes!  Leap here!  Do this thing.  Now is the time!”  Even though he was not an expensive horse in any way, he did cost more than these newlyweds had readily available.  My heart that could see beyond the budget that had $16 left before groceries said, “Sure…pay for this dream to become true. Why not?  We can and we will (and we did) figure out the details later.” 

Why do I tell you all of this?  Because I want you to tap into what’s alive for you right now!  Because I want you to see that there are ways to get creative in fulfilling dreams that feel out of reach, unrealistic, that others may not understand, or that just seem plain unlikely to ever happen.  What choices do you know you need to make for the well-being of your whole self?  What do you want to stretch for that might feel out of reach? What trip have you put on hold?  What class have you wanted to take?  Maybe you’ve wanted to try a new way of eating but don’t know how… Whatever it is, whether it’s a “big thing” or not, how can you plant some seeds today toward it?   
  
“It’s knowing that this can’t go on forever” (Jason Isbell, “If We Were Vampires”) that calls us to feel the urgency to live life while we can, while we’re healthy enough, while we’re young enough, while we’re here. 

What baby step or mini choice will you take in the direction of a dream that scares you and excites you all at once? Please share below and let’s stop waiting for conditions to be “just right.”  Because, you know what? They may never be…  but today, you are here.  You’re reading this, and there’s something that wants your attention, that wants you to believe in it enough to nurture it to life!  And, I am cheering you on! 

Oh, and this song that I’ve referenced twice now… here it is!  Close your eyes, soak it in, listen deeply, and see if it speaks to you as it does to me.  Let me know.  And If you have another anthem that fuels and inspires you, share that here to so that we can all grow our playlists!!  

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Do You Feel Free?

7/1/2019

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I woke one morning last week clearly hearing this question in a woman’s voice in my head: “Barb, do you feel free?”  It has stayed with me since then.  It’s hung around because I’m not sure how to answer it.  In many ways, yes, I absolutely feel very free.  And then there are the ways I don’t… the ways I hold myself back and the reasons I do.  The things I let stop me.  The beliefs behind those decisions.  The people I care about and what I think they need from me.  Responsibilities, obligations, and commitments.  Financial realities.  Rules and laws. 

What does “free” even mean?  Apparently that’s a great question since Merriam-Webster has 15 definitions, many with their own sub-definitions…  Take a look and see which ones you are curious about.

The one thing that helps me to feel free is to remember that I am always at choice -- as long as I am willing to accept the consequences of my choice.  I don’t get to choose how other people behave, but I am not powerless about how I respond.  I get to decide what my role will be, what words I will say and what actions I will take.

I don’t get to choose my feelings – they come in without warning quite naturally. But I do get to choose what I do with those emotions.  How I respond, how much weight I give them, how long I stay with them.

I do have choice, even though I may not realize it in the moment. 
Freedom to choose is paramount.
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I think I’ll spare you further musings while I continue to ponder this question that is landing deep in my being and invite you to join me. 

Do you feel free?  What does “free” mean to you and how do you know if you are or aren’t?  Where do you feel free?  Where do you feel trapped or powerless?  How might you bring in some more freedom to your days?  Why is free important?  What would life be like if you were free? 

Here’s one of my favorite songs to accompany you as you explore. 


Please, please share in the comments below.  This feels like a rich conversation! I look forward to hearing your insights and thoughts. 

Thanks for playing!  

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Yes or No?

6/8/2019

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It’s not always easy to know where to direct our attention or spend our precious energy and time.  We live in an abundant world of possibilities… which is great!  Until it’s not…  

I, for one, can easily overwhelm and over-commit myself to too many groups (easy to do these days given the easy access to so many online groups as well as in-person ones), too many programs (anyone else a victim to the bright, shiny object syndrome??), too many practices (I love to learn and I love things that enhance my life…what can I say?)… And then I find I have too many “things” for too few hours!

And so when I woke up finding myself feeling overwhelmed, weighed down, and uncertain where to even begin I noticed the familiar tendency to freeze and just not do anything at all… or to distract myself in brilliantly disguised ways, doing things that need to be done, but maybe not right now. Or by doing things that don’t need to get done at all!  That social media rabbit hole is a favorite place for me to go at times like this. How about you?  Where do you go when you don’t know where to begin?  

In the past two weeks I’ve been to two workshops, and I’ve loved them both! They both involve practices that I would like to bring into my everyday life. And I’m just not sure where they are going to fit in.  Something needs to give to open up space in my hours. I can feel the confinement of so many things bearing down on me. The things I want to do. The things I need to do. The things that are calling me. The things that are drawing me in.  And the pressures of the places I think I should show up…  

I started to sit down at my desk and just start something, and very quickly realized that I had no idea where to begin. That’s when it hit me that today my morning routine had gotten disrupted and I hadn’t yet meditated.  This makes all the difference in the world for me, so I took myself to my seat and sat.

When you think you don't have time...  
The irony is that the moments when I don’t think I have time, is exactly when I need to make the time for the practices that support and sustain me.  Meditation is one for me.  Taking the time to sit with myself, to be with my breath, quiets my mind and calms my nervous system, taking me out of the reactive mode to a clearer place of discernment. From there I really can begin taking on one thing at a time with a much clearer head.  I can be more discerning.  I can begin.  
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What works for you when you get overwhelmed?  How do you decide what is a "yes, this is something I will do" rather than "no!" (at least not now).  Please comment so that we can all take in some new ideas.  Thanks!  Here’s to wise discernment and a little less overwhelm!  

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What's YOUR Dream?

6/23/2018

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Have you ever found yourself getting swept away in a grand vision or a big dream and suddenly you find yourself falling short? 

It happened to me in the past month or so, and it surprised me.  I know better, but I'm still easy prey.  No matter how much I preach this and support others to NOT do it, I caught myself getting swept up in ambition that wasn’t mine.  I was striving to do more, be more, make more, be like people I admire, and live up to what I think other people want for me or expect of me.  And, I got really, really out of sorts. 

Thankfully, in the wee early morning hours (as so often seems to be the time for these epiphanies!)  I felt a clear “Stop!  What are you doing!?  Why are you making yourself crazy and beating yourself up? What’s true for your heart?” 

Once I paused, I was able to recognize that what IS enough for me has nothing to do with reaching millions of people or making millions of dollars. What is enough for me is showing up fully to those I am graced to work with – to touch one life at a time.  It’s enough for me to be able to give where I can. It’s enough for me to really appreciate the life we’ve created. My soul breathed a sigh of relief…  There you are, she said.  Thank goodness you’ve remembered.  Settle down now... 

It’s so easy to get swayed off course. So many outside voices gratuitously offering their thoughts on what we need and what we should do.  Watching other people do what you thought you wanted to do and judging yourself as inferior.  For me there was also a story running that went something like this…  If you’re not going to have a big business, go on tour, speak to thousands, make a lot of money, then what has all this training,coaching, and retreating you’ve done to support you and your business been about?  And, in that moment I unearthed this story that told me I needed to justify all that I’ve done in some way through my business results. 

Then the inquiry to get at the deeper truth came pouring in… What if all of the work I’ve done has been to help me be better for myself, for my family, and for those who I am lucky enough to be able to serve? What if it fulfilled my insatiable curiosity and love of learning (and that’s OK)?  What if what matters to me most is my family and my home and I no longer desire to go after a dream that would take me away from them a lot?  What if it’s enough that 111 Invitations is rippling out slowly, naturally, and organically?  

The truth is, for me, it is exactly enough for this moment in time. I am right where I want to be today. I am relieved to admit this to myself and to give myself permission to stop feeling like it’s not enough – that I need to push for more. For today, I’ve landed on what feels right on a deep, deep level.  And, that gives me a ground to stand on and a newfound energy that inspires me.  Instead of feeling discouraged, I feel alive and excited.  Some of my dreams no longer fit, and for now I can drop the burden of carrying them any further.

What are YOUR dreams?

So, how about you?  If you stopped trying to be what you thought you should be or what you thought someone else wanted you to be, what are YOUR dreams?  Are there dreams you once held that no longer fit you?  What would happen if you let them go or at least set them aside for now? 

These answers will come from your heart, not your head.  I invite you to take some quiet time, place a hand on your heart, and ask.  Then listen.  Jot down what you hear.  And, listen some more.  Allow insights to come to you unobstructed.  This isn’t the time to edit or argue.  Allow yourself to be surprised.  See what lights you up from inside, brings you that sigh of relief when you let go of something that is no longer yours, or electrifies you with excitement. 

You may find a new sense of energy and motivation that had gotten bogged down in the misdirected efforts of wandering a path that wasn’t meant for you.  Lucky you!  Now you know, and you can begin anew. 

In our culture we are solidly conditioned that more and bigger are better.  It’s just not necessarily true.  We’ve been told to “dream big.”  Hell, I’ve told people that for years, and I still believe it – the important piece is to discern and define what’s BIG for you! Big isn’t necessarily measured in dollars or numbers. Big impact can come through small actions. 

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living so
meone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” ~Steve Jobs

The truth is when you speak, act, and create from a place of deep integrity, being true to yourself, following the call of your heart and soul, you will find more peace and joy, and you WILL make a difference.  Your being will be happy and fulfilled, and in that happiness and fulfillment, you will have a ripple effect you may not even be aware of!   When you come from a place of authenticity, there’s no telling what surprises await.  You just don’t have to try so hard to make things happen. 
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If you’d like to take time for this inner exploration, join us at one of my upcoming retreats.  Part of the reason I’m so passionate about retreats is that they give us the gift of time and space to touch in with questions like this.  While it is possible to sit with this type of inquiry on an average day, it’s much harder when we’re wrapped up in daily to-do’s, distractions, and demands.  Stepping away for a bit, allows our nervous system to let down, quiets the outer noise, allows our hearts to open, and allows our intuition to speak.  


If you enjoy writing prompts, you might play with some of these, taking a few minutes each and writing without stop to see what comes through:
- The parts of my dream that are alive and well right now are...
- I am willing to let go of...
- I'd love to bring in more...
- What really matters to me...
- What I appreciate about where I am right now is... 

Please share your insights, wisdom, and reflections here - we learn and grow together!  


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Softening the Gaze on a Dream

6/23/2017

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Sometimes what we are very attached to as our “dream” house, mate, or job may be more of an imagined illusion than reality.  We see and hear what we want to or we create a rich fantasy story around what things will be like with this person, place or role.

We become attached to it, holding on for dear life, grasping what we want to be true.  We move forward with blinders that block even the largest of red flags.  And, we tell ourselves, over and over, This is the one!  I know it!  I can feel it!!  And, sometimes we entrench ourselves so deeply that it’s hard to find our way out again.

Evidence may even mount that it might be time to reconsider, but we are so married to our idealized view that we can’t (or won’t) let go. 

This is really fresh for me right now. Ever since I was a young girl, spending summers on a lake at our family cottage, I have wanted badly (desperately even) to live on a lake.  My heart has never let go of this dream, even though most of me has never really believed it could happen. 

A month ago I got a hit that it was time to make this move.  My husband was immediately on board, and off we went… searching many lakes within a couple hour radius, spending way too many hours online scouring listings, driving hundreds of miles and seeing a lot of junk!

Then we found It (with a capital I!)!  And, even though we kept on looking, we kept returning to It.  It was unique and charming, and had everything we wanted (minus a few hundred square feet, but we decided we could manage a major downsize at this time).  We visited several times and began making plans for our life in this new idyllic lake house.  We began purging and cleaning like crazy to get our house ready to sell, and most of our life took a backseat to this venture.  We willingly and eagerly poured in most of our time and energy to moving.  And, we were excited – so excited to begin this new chapter of our life where we imagined peace, serenity, creativity, and community… We were deeply enmeshed.

Then came the inspection.  We expected it to be a formality that would simply move us onto the next phase toward living here.  We were even inclined to dismiss some of the findings in favor of the fantasy.  But, thankfully, my inner guidance woke me up at 4:30 the next morning and smacked me between the eyes!  HEAT!  Heat is kind of a big deal here in Western New York!!  The inspector had said in multiple ways, that for a variety of reasons we might be cold (as might our pipes)… 

The dream came crashing in.  First came terror.  What had we gotten ourselves into, and what do we do when we’re this far into the process??  Secondly, over a period of time, the sadness and grief of loss for this envisioned future seeped in and hit me so hard that it was almost paralyzing.  Everything had been wrapped up in this dream. 

Thank goodness my husband and I each have ways to ground ourselves and clear our heads. Letting ourselves be willing to see the truth of the situation allowed us to provide a thoughtful response about the work needed for us to feel comfortable moving forward. We still wanted the house if it could be fixed up the way we had envisioned it to be, though we knew our request was unlikely to be met.

So began the process of letting go of the dream. 

When we let go of dreams, overwhelm and disappointment can come rushing in.  It is easy to wonder if we have to let go of the whole dream altogether.  This happened for me, but thankfully, I’ve realized that the dream itself is not lost. It was just this version of the dream that no longer fit.

The essence of the dream is still there, and now it’s time to move on to find the right package for it. 

To do that, we need to tap into the core of the dream.  For me, it is the feeling that comes from imagining life on the water that pulls me forward, even when things seem impossibly frustrating.


So, whether it’s a job, a house, or a relationship, sometimes it’s a good thing to have a firm reality check.  Is this really what I think it is?  Or, do I just wish that it were?  When the veil of illusion is lifted, we become free to move forward again.  Perhaps toward a better fit.

It may feel like a screeching, twisting, fast-paced roller coaster ride that all of a sudden slams to a halt, and we want to let out a blood curdling shriek!  However, it’s better to know now than in January when the fantasy vanishes and your pipes freeze and break.  Or 5 years into the job or relationship and your heart breaks.

When we soften our gaze on our dream, we can see it for what it really is rather than being fixated on obtaining it no matter what.  We can tune into the qualities we are seeking and look around for them, rather than going after this particular thing like a cat in full body tension, ready to pounce on its prey.  This isn’t about survival, after all.  It is about finding what will be deeply nourishing.  Only from a place of discernment without grasping or clinging can we discover what that might be. 
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What dream is calling you?  Are you able to tune into the seed of that dream or are you being pulled off course by some imagined “it?”    
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