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Love IS Tough!

8/1/2022

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Whether it’s love for a child, partner, family member, friend, or ourselves.  Staying IN relationship is almost always harder than walking away.  Being willing to have the tough conversations, to admit our hurt or misunderstanding, to ask “what happened?  What did you experience?” and share what’s going on for us, however imperfectly the words might fall out of your mouth. 

Personally, I almost always bumble my words in real time.  They don’t come out nearly as coherently or smoothly as they sounded in my head when I am face to face with this person with whom I’m having some kind of struggle.  I didn’t grow up learning how to express my anger or hurt or how to ask for what I need. 

I grew up hiding from conflict, avoiding it like the plague.  Love and anger did not compute – in my mind they negated one another.  I couldn’t be angry with someone I loved.  If they were angry with me, that must mean our relationship is over.  Anger has always been a little scary for me – mine as well as others.  The silent treatment riles me up - I sometimes provoke just to get some kind of interaction going, even if it isn’t pretty. 

Love, my friends, is tough.  It’s so much easier (in some ways) to ice someone out, cut them off, be “done” with them.  Walk away and stop trying to mend what’s been damaged or heal the hurt. 
It takes effort to be willing to muddle through a conversation when both of you are hurting and/or upset.  As we learn to take good care of ourselves it can be hard to figure out how to do that AND stay in relationship, honoring that we both have needs and at times those needs might be in conflict. 
It takes learning new ways to wait and new ways to communicate in order to reconnect after there’s been a mishap.  It’s painful.  It’s often ugly, and may involve some tissues, some big sighs, some exasperated gestures or voices.  It’s tricky to stay out of defensive posture, hear the other person, while also sharing our thoughts and feelings. 

Self-compassion is also critical, as I tend to beat myself up, imagining what a terrible person I must be if this person I love is so upset.  I hate hurting people and would far rather blame myself than someone I love.  Self-love can be tough. 

If we are wise, we allow time and space for each person to think things through, to look at our own stuff, to feel what’s bubbling within us, before we try to come together.  However, in the silence, alone with our thoughts, we conjure up stories that may be far worse than what’s really going on.  Someone avoids us or doesn’t take our calls, and we give it all sorts of meanings.  How quickly we go from sadness and hurt to fear to “F@#& you!” depends on our own personal boiling point or how often we’ve been abandoned before. 

I do not believe in “tough love” as too often prescribed for families and friends of loved ones who struggle with mental health issues like substance use, eating disorders, or other problematic behaviors.  No, I don’t.  These people are already hurting and misunderstood enough.  Trust me, they pile onto their own suffering and adding to it is not going to help them heal or change.  Just, no. 

But I do know love is tough.  Hanging in there in a way that works for you as well as the other person is tough.  We fall in love with our babies and our partners so easily, we may not grasp the reality of the work and care required to stay in relationship with these people as we all grow and change. 

I am discovering the gift in the relationships that require extensive work.  Each time we make it through another round or problem, we deepen our connection.  We add to the evidence that we will last.  We learn to trust the relationship, and we remember (at least for a minute) not to take it or this person for granted. 

Love is tough.  It requires a willingness to be clumsy, a commitment to be honest, an ability to show up and speak up, even when it’s uncomfortable.  The ability to take a risk because the relationship matters.  It requires that we show up fully and authentically – not pretending that all is ok until we somehow get beyond whatever happened.  True friendships and deep relationships require honesty and for each of us to be true to ourselves.  I am not interested in superficial connections.  I want to dive deep with my people.  Diving deep is going to get messy at times. 

It's tough.  And in the end, it is so worth it.  As we grow together, we learn more about one another. If I can begin to look at you and really know and accept that your behaviors make sense (based on your history, your personality, your style, your way of thinking and being), I can more easily accept you and make room for our differences. I can appreciate that we are not the same, and that’s ok.  Hopefully you will learn a bit about my wounds, my triggers, my reactions, and my messed-up thinking as we talk things out.  We will both realize that everyone acts like an ass at times… including me and including you. 

I don’t have to take it all on.  Relationships are made up of people.  Whatever is going on here, we’ve created it together.  We may not have meant to – things are often not personal or intentional, but here we are. 

How do we find our way back to the surface to begin again? Together.  One moment and one breath at a time.  Through reaching out and asking or inviting a conversation.  Through allowing space and time for that green light moment to reveal itself.  Through finding “our way,” which may not be entirely yours or entirely mine.  Getting beyond a need to blame or punish – ourself or the other.  Remembering our heart connection and coming with deep compassion and an open heart so that we can reconnect. 

Love is tough.   It’s not always sunshine and rainbows.  It requires deep vulnerability, the courage to say “I am sorry. I was wrong.  I wish that hadn’t happened.  I don’t ever want to hurt you" (but I likely will if you stick around long enough, because, hey… I’m human and so are you). 

Love is not always laughter and joy, even when we think it should be.  Life is always happening, and in the end, love is tough...so it endures.  Love is the way.   

**PLEASE NOTE: Not all relationships are healthy or worth fighting for - if you are being abused in any way, please get the help and support you need to take care of yourself and keep yourself safe.**

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It Only Takes One

7/20/2022

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Sometimes, I notice, it only takes one phone call, one conversation to knock me off my game and take me out for several hours.  Or, one call or conversation to bring me back in, to lift me up, to reawaken some hope in a weary spirit. 

One too familiar tone can begin the spin of “here we go again.”  One breath can re-ground and remind us we don’t have to go there. We don’t know what the future holds. 

One choice or decision can change the trajectory of a life, for better or for worse.

One birth and a world changes forever with the infusion of new life, new hopes, new dreams.  Who is this little person and what will they bring? 

One death changes everything in a heartbeat.  The profound grief sweeps in accompanied by a strong cry to live.  To somehow honor this life that is gone.  To make meaning out of the meaningless. 

One small smile and conversation can lead to a lifelong friendship.

One connection leads to the next, to an introduction to another.  One vulnerable conversation invites others to share what they otherwise might have held close. 

One “yes” can open doors to possibility. 

One breath can bring me back to ground, calm a racing heart, offer the pause I need to find a fresh perspective.  Open my mind to consider what I otherwise might have missed.

One label changes nothing, yet sometimes feels like it changes everything.  Does it change who a person is?  No.  But, can it limit options?  Yes.  Can it open doors?  Possibly. We do not know. 

Our lives our made up of so many “ones” linked together.  Each moment offering opportunity and invitation.  These moments matter because they come together to create the tapestry of your life.

One stranger lending a hand might turn a life around.  One trustworthy person who listens with an open heart.  One person who sees something you yourself cannot – who lends their hope, belief and vision to you as you find your way. 

One tear can open the floodgates, releasing a necessary and cleansing release.  One tissue is not enough. 

One smile or hug can soften my heart, soften my day.  One shared breath can open a portal to hope. 
One thought (if you catch it) leads to a screenplay, a blog, the next NYT bestseller, a sweet love letter.  If you say “yes.” 

One more thing coming at you can feel like an avalanche of overwhelm.  Letting go of one thing or even taking one step back may lighten your load. 

One dollar.  One dream.  Perhaps another ticket in the recycling bin (most likely, but c’mon, sometimes you gotta try!).  Perhaps an epic opportunity to shower good upon the world. 

I have always said (and truly believed) that if my book touched just one life, it would be enough.  I am glad and grateful for every one reader who lets me know it has. 

One keystroke.  One “send” can open or close a door.  One enrollment – one program – one retreat can alter the way you live your life, the way you see things, who is part of your world. 

One step to set your soul free.  To listen to the inner call that says, “Go for it! What have you got to lose?”  One step to light your inner flame and to let yourself be more you.  These are the steps I long to take more and more of in my days. 

Sometimes it only takes one. 

One person makes a difference – just by showing up as they are.

One moment can change a life, for better or for worse. 

We only need to face this one, right here, right now.  The one that is before us.  Just this one.  It’s enough.  We don’t have to know how the story will end.  Because we can’t.  So, as always, I invite myself into this moment.  The one right here, right now.  The one that is guaranteed – not the flimsy one that may or may not ever come to be.  “Start close in” as David Whyte says in his beautiful invitation.  Right here.  Right now. 

One moment at a time.  That’s all you need to do to move through your day.  Breathe into the spaciousness and possibility of the many moments that exist within these 24 hours.  If you can be present to each moment, be with the people you are with, I promise you it will be richer and you will be wiser and more fulfilled from having been here.  Just breathe.  Take it slow.  Take it steady.  Just one.  One moment.  One breath.  One smile.  One shriek.  One gaze.  One person at a time.  Be with that. 
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What one’s are you noticing these days, for better or worse?  What’s one thing you can do that will comfort or nourish you today?  


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Feeling Blah...

7/13/2022

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I don’t know about you, but I seem to cycle through phases of feeling energized, very on purpose, in flow, and then dropping into “What is the point of it all? Why do we do what we do?  What is my purpose?  Do I even have a purpose, or is this all for nothing?  Who am I?” 

It’s pretty unsettling and disorienting in the floundering times that hold such big, heavy questions.  I think it’s pretty natural.  My counselor says it’s ok, so that reassures me.  There will be times of feeling blah, needing to turn inward, to shut out the world, to give more to myself than to others.  It’s called nourishment, nurturing, true self care, and it’s vital to our sustainability as humans. 

The world is a lot right now.   Whatever might be going on personally, we each need to add multipliers to it that are weighing on us, consciously or not.  The pandemic goes on, the debate about the pandemic goes on, injustice, violence, discrimination, threats to life and liberty are everywhere.  Maybe the world is always a lot.  I’m feeling the accumulation of it pretty heavily right now, along with the collective weight of years of personal stuff. 

So, there’s been a bit of blah lately.  Not a lot of energy or motivation.  A strong desire to pull in, to slow down, to quiet down, to say “no” and to not be too available to others.  The clarity is strong, and the good news is I’m listening despite the inner struggle that wonders if that’s really ok or if I’m at risk of becoming a hermit. 

I teeter between telling myself it’s ok and wondering if that’s really true.  Mostly, I’m leaning into only doing what I want, what feels doable and reasonable given my current bandwidth, letting go of, or rescheduling non-essentials, releasing things that feel like more hassle than they’re worth.  As I write this it feels like a pretty healthy approach.  It just seems that I need this more and more these days, years, months.  Didn’t I just give myself a little sabbatical last year?  I did.  And this year. 

And now I need one again in the form I am able to create it – I will gladly see my clients, I will co-facilitate my group, I will continue to write… and I will put off things that do not call to me or do not need to happen.  I will cancel memberships to groups I don’t participate in – I feel the low-level pressure when I’m not being honest with myself. 

I showed up for yoga class on Sunday and thankfully the theme was tuning into and trusting our inner guidance.  Love when that happens!  So, as I practiced, I took a few notes. 

Here’s what I took away – what I was reminded of:
  1. We all have inner wisdom, inner guidance, inner authority. 
  2. When we are depleted, overwhelmed, stressed, or in crisis or survival mode, we lose touch with it.
  3. To connect with it we need to be willing to feel.  This may be why we over-busy ourselves or find other ways to numb or distract ourselves.  It can be uncomfortable to feel what our inner wisdom is telling us.
  4. Escaping, distracting, and numbing take us away from our natural connection with our inner knowing.  Work, alcohol, substances, food, activities, social media, our devices, and over-giving to others serve this purpose.  This purpose of protecting us from the discomfort. 
  5. Integrity comes from living in alignment with our inner knowing and guidance. 
  6. Slowing down, coming into breath and body helps.  Quieting down.  Connecting to something larger than ourselves through prayer, meditation, or getting out in nature helps.  Opening up space, breathing room allows us to hear and see more clearly. 
  7. There are going to be these moments when we feel unsure.  When we feel like we are flailing, lost, and confused.  Times when we release the last version of ourselves and our lives to step into what’s next.  In between steps there is often a pause – a time to cocoon in order to transform.  It’s not always pretty or comfortable.  It’s worth going there anyway. 
  8. To fully experience the richness of this human life, we need to be willing to feel it all and to be with ourselves in these moments of not knowing, of discomfort, of questioning.  When we can be with ourselves in these times, come home to our heart and soul for guidance, we allow ourselves to grow and become.  It isn’t flashy or pretty until it is.  Think caterpillar to goo to beautiful butterfly.  We too are like this.  We just need to give ourselves permission to go into the darkness, to huddle up, to rest, to integrate, to release any need to perform or prove as we become. 
The vastness of the ocean, the immensity of a redwood, the expansiveness of a canyon can take us away and beyond our own smallness to help us connect with the sense that something larger is at play.  In these spaces we can feel both our own insignificance and our interconnection to all things on earth.  We can find our belonging within the Universe and believe somehow that even when we can’t see it, there is a reason we are here. We do matter.  We can remember that we are not alone.  We matter.  We are needed.  Our voice, our ideas, our creations… unlike any other. 

Whenever you find yourself doubting that, I invite and encourage you to listen to Brandi Carlile and Alicia Keys sing “A Beautiful Noise.”  Something in this song wakes me, shakes me, and reminds me to hold on even when I’m not sure where I’m going.  It pulls me back to trust that the way will become clear (or at least clearer).  It reminds me that I have a voice.  I have unique stories to tell, perspectives to share, lessons to teach, invitations to offer, and gifts to give.  So do you.  Each one of us does. 

How are you doing these days?  Where is your inner guidance leading you?  Talking with a wise woman the other day she aptly noted, “I think people are fried.”  I think she’s right.  If you’re feeling fried right now, how do you recharge?  How do you reconnect with your inner wisdom and guidance?  What works for you?  Please share with us so that we can add to our own ideas.  In the moments of darkness, it can be hard to see a path forward.  We forget this current state will, at some point, come to an end.  It will.  


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Many & Mixed Emotions

7/1/2022

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Whew! It’s been a week of many emotions, from the pits of despair, to peace, to joy.  Memories, moments swirl within, weaving together, making up my reality.  Healing is happening.  Growth is happening.  Layers peeling back.  Heart breaking open.  Trauma being released. 

Car screams help.  Tears help.  Laughter helps.  Saying “yes” to spontaneous invites help.  Reaching out helps. Conversation and connection help.  Pausing to notice change and growth and to acknowledge it helps.  Holistic healthcare helps – a lot.  Grateful for all of my practitioners who have ideas and an understanding of how to help that seems to be beyond the scope of Western medicine. 

I have felt myself swirling down into the too familiar drain of doom… taking one data point and projecting it into a future reality, that I obviously have no idea if it will ever come to be or not.  Our minds are so quick with the stories, find such reassurance in certainty, think they know it all.  They don’t. 

But the old triggers awaken the automatic responses – before I even know it, I’m back in the old ways, swirling in the old thoughts, feeling the old fears.  I don’t have to stay here. I am grateful for the reminders that change is not a smooth linear upward path.  It never is.  Growth happens in fits and spurts, in setbacks and hesitations, in erratic and unpredictable ways.  The path is rarely clear. 

So, keep my heart open.  Allow space for what’s here in this moment.  How can I be with myself?  Who can support me?  It’s clear I need to expand my network.  My immediate desire is to call Mary… and, of course, I can’t.  And though she plays me music to let me know she’s right here, it’s just not the same.  Thankful for the friends who do call.  Who ask, “What can I do to support you?” or who simply offer their care and love.  Thankful for talking with my family.  Thankful for hard, honest conversations that reflect so much.  Thankful when I can help another. 

This week has hit me in so many ways, from mundane and simple overwhelm from trying to do too much in too little time, to self-criticism for doing that, to more extreme situations.  I’ve had moments of absolute divine flow and grace, sailing smoothly through with no rushing or lateness – definitely a rarity!  And I’ve had moments of forgetting things like money to pay my acupuncturist or important documents to share with my coach.  Oh well… move on through.  I can pay her next time and bring those papers in a couple of weeks.  We work with what’s here. 

Driving through our old neighborhood the other day brought up so much… dreams of what was to be and the reality of what wasn’t.  A mix of sweet memories of my kids’ childhoods twirled and danced with scary, disappointing, and terribly sad ones of later years.  I felt my heart ache for it all, felt my throat clench as sobs started to rise, and I took myself to the park.  I sat in the car in the parking lot and I journaled… I let everything come through my pen onto paper.  I let myself cry.  I let myself feel and release what had been stuffed tightly down for too long as I claimed all of it as part of this reality that is my life. 

I know for me healing includes walking through the fire, facing what’s before me.  As I can face it, I can release it.  I can see where I’ve been and where I am now.  I can reckon with the horribly hard stuff, embrace the sweet stuff and I can accept all that falls in-between. 

Contemplation sometimes moves to action too quickly for my being to keep up.  I love our spontaneity overall. And, sometimes it catches me off guard.  We decided to sell our boat. It took less than 72 hours and it will be gone – whisked away to some other lake to cart grandkids around. That makes me happy.  We had a nice run over to Beachcomber the other night for the classic summer dinner by the lake while they play beach volleyball.  One of the things we’ve always loved doing with the boat!  This morning we took our last spin around the lake.  Getting to be captain one more time, I soaked it in.  Tears ran down my face for all the reasons – mostly because this dream ever came into reality! All my life I wanted a ski boat.  9 years ago, we got our first one and it’s been a wonderful thing.   Savoring the memories and at the same time relieved to be done with any hassle.  Knowing there will be moments I will miss it and long for it, and knowing overall it will be a relief. 

Why in the world am I carrying on about such an inconsequential thing at a time when the world is raging with so many consequential and incomprehensible things?  Because it’s all part of it… each one of us is affected by the small personal things, the big personal things and the collective stuff of the world.  I don’t know anyone who’s not feeling some level of weariness right now. 
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It’s a really good time to take good care of ourselves.  And it begins, for me, with allowing the many mixed emotions to move through me.  Tears, laughter, delight, agony… they can all come through in any given day. What I try to remember is that “this” won’t last.  Whatever this is… it will change, morph, release, move on, and something else will quickly fill its place.  

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Supposed To's

6/23/2022

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There are SO MANY supposed to’s out there…  each of us carries an extensive catalog of them in our minds. 

Big days hold so many expectations.  So much pressure.  Of how things are “supposed to” be or about things you’re “supposed to” do.  Birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. And also, weekends, evenings, vacations, mornings.  So many ideas of what should happen, what we should be doing, how we should be behaving - many of them not even conscious, but driving the show anyway.  These ideas weigh on us, drive us, lead us to judge ourselves and each other.  Have we lived up to the expectations or have we fallen short?  Have we nailed it or been a whopping disappointment?

This week has been filled with big days in my world – our anniversary, Father’s Day, my son’s birthday.  I’ve had to work to be aware of my “supposed to’s” so that I could let go of them and allow whatever was or whatever we wanted to create to be ok, to be enough. 

It has taken conscious effort to accept the reality of some situations.  No, I will not get to celebrate my birthday with my son in person this year.  My heart aches over that, but it’s just the way it is right now.  So, what can I do instead?  How can I find a way to celebrate him, me, us, this life, and the years we’ve shared and all that they’ve carried?  What will work for me/for us in this reality? 

I’ve had to work to choose to give us permission to spend our anniversary and Father’s Day the way we wanted to.  It’s ok to share a nice lunch instead of a big fancy dinner.  It’s ok to eat in and create a picnic that fits what I want to eat.  It’s ok to choose not to do gifts, because we just don’t need anything more.  It’s ok to make space to enjoy the day the way WE want – to decide together what works for us, moment by moment.  It takes awareness and presence to grant ourselves full permission to do this. 

I have had such high hopes for so many special days over the many years of my life.  Too often I’ve found myself disappointed or let down when things didn’t measure up.  So, is this settling now?  No!  This is simply letting go of all the conditioning that bears down on me about how anything is “supposed to” be! 

These supposed to’s extend beyond these special life moments – they seep into our roles (“good” mother, friend, sister, boss, student).  They permeate our ideas of what life is supposed to look like, how our plans are supposed to go, what this life’s trajectory should be like, how recovery should go, what a house is supposed to look like… on and on and on.

Often they lead to disappointment or a sense of failure because they carry the idea that there is ONE way or a RIGHT way to do anything.  They close the door on what might be true or right for you in this moment.  They limit us. 

Slogans, mantras, and pithy sayings can keep us locked in rules given to us or rules we’ve taken on.  Often, we don’t stop to examine them.  We don’t bother to consider, “Is this still true for me?  Does this work with where I am in my current life?  Does it fit my present-day thinking?  Does it make sense to me?” 

Spiritual supposed to’s can keep us spinning with ideas like “I know I should focus on my blessings or on what I’m grateful for.  I know I need to just let go and let God.  I know I need to accept what is… to surrender. To trust.  To have faith in a greater plan.  God wouldn’t give me more than what I can handle.  Everything happens for a reason.  What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger…”  and on and on these ideas go.  Sometimes these help get us through, but sometimes they are a spiritual bypass asking us to jump over a harsh reality.  Sometimes we just need to be real.  We need to sit in the messiness of human which may not want to hear these things in this moment.  Sometimes we need to take a step back and examine these ideas – are they really serving and supporting me in this moment or are they just making me feel worse about what I now judge to be my less-than-ideal behavior? 

How to deal with supposed to’s:
  1. Know what yours are.  Begin to notice them when they crop up – often as a sneaky force running below the surface of consciousness but very much influencing your experience of life.
  2. Examine them.  Get curious.  Consider where they came from.  Is this an idea someone else imposed upon you that you continue to carry?  Is this one helpful or is it limiting your ability to consider other possibilities?
  3. Wonder about them – what do these supposed to’s tell us? They may carry a longing or desire that genuinely comes from the heart.  They may reflect a sadness or grief (“it wasn’t supposed to be this way”) that deserves to be acknowledged and honored.  They may invite you to sit with what’s been lost. 
  4. Decide which ones you will keep and honor when you can and which ones you might be ready to let go of or reframe. 
  5. Open yourself to possibility thinking. 

Supposed to’s carry a sense of solidity, inflexibility, and certainty (which can be part of their appeal, I suppose).  They are constricting, limiting, and often based on the past or past conditioning or other people’s ideas.  They shut us down and close us off – keep us looking at the world through blinders.  They stop us from questioning, evolving our thinking and being. 

On the other hand, possibility thinking comes when we open our hearts and minds to consider what else might be ok.  When we face the reality that is here, we can choose consciously how we want to live and be.  We can open up and flow in a way that aligns with who we are in this moment – we can breathe in, feel into, lean into what fills us up with delight, satisfaction, or contentment.  We can decide what is enough and to go back to last week’s piece on Boundaries, we get to choose what is ok and what isn’t, what we will do and what we won’t do. 

When we open up to give ourselves permission to change and grow, we may release some long-held ideas of how things are supposed to go or what life is supposed to look like.  We may discover new thinking or consider fresh ideas.  We are more willing to consider someone else’s perspective. 

When we can open our hearts, listen to the wisdom and knowing our own bodies and hearts, we can begin to live in a way that better suits us.  We can find our own way – our own truth – to perhaps model, create, or teach a new possibility for others to consider. 

So many supposed to’s… and I haven’t even touched on the health and wellness ones, the how people are expected to behave in any given setting… 
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What supposed to’s get to you?  Are there any you’re ready to let go of, reclaim, or redefine? 
 

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Boundaries... Tough, and So Critical!

6/16/2022

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Recently I’ve become really aware of my accumulated depletion from years of hyper-vigilance, and over-giving.  Certainly, this has been me for the few decades, since the time I was pregnant with my oldest son. 

Most likely it’s been me my whole life.  Even as a pretty young child, there was care-giving I had to do.  Always on alert, always doing what I could, working hard to make sure my people are safe, the household runs decently enough, friends are ok, clients well-cared for… carrying a lot of people and their needs in my head and heart. No doubt the stresses of our time is also weighing heavily on me. 

It’s like the fish in water who doesn’t know they’re swimming in water – I didn’t know or couldn’t see what I’ve been swimming in.  I have so many wonderful grounding practices, that mostly I do pretty well. I thought I was ok.  And, overall, I really AM OK!  I share all of this only to lay the background, not for anyone to worry about me – really. 

At the same time, it’s catching up with me, so I’m finding I need more space, more time, more quiet, more slowing down, more breathing room in order to return my nervous system to calm.  It’s not as calm as I’ve thought it was as often as I’ve thought it was.  And, so, enter the need for boundaries.   Boundaries do not come easily or naturally to me, but I’ve learned how vital they are to one’s well-being.


Enter boundaries

Enter the need for boundaries.   Boundaries do not come easily or naturally to me, but I’ve learned how vital they are to one’s well-being. I resonate with Brené Brown’s definition of boundaries as “what’s ok and what’s not ok.”  When we can be clear about this and communicate it to others, we actually strengthen relationship and clarify roles. 


Boundaries allow me to stay connected. They help me to preserve my energy and well-being. Without boundaries, I might need to pull away completely, shut down all together, and go into isolation, making connection impossible.

Boundaries bring me into integrity with what is true for me and allow me to honor what I really have to give. Without boundaries, I can easily over-give, over-extend, and burn myself out… That serves no one. Without boundaries I show up, but I am later exhausted or resentful… That gets in the way of relationship.

Boundaries allow you to trust me. You can count on me to say “yes” when I am available and “no” when I am not. You no longer have to worry or wonder about taking care of me. You can trust that I am taking care of myself.  Please know that even if I say “no” or “not now,” I still care.  I care enough to not give to you when I am not able to.I hope you understand, and I don’t need you to understand.

This isn’t about you.  It’s about integrity, truth, and honoring.  When I hold a boundary, I honor both you and me… even if it doesn’t feel that way in the moment.

Of course I want people to like me (don't we all?), but I am no longer willing to let that override my love for myself. For too many years I put others first and abandoned myself on a regular basis. This is not sustainable, healthy, or good for either one of us.

With boundaries, we can develop a strong and healthy relationship. I trust you to have other resources and to find your way even when I am not available. I believe in you which is why I don’t have to turn my world upside down to save you. I honor your wisdom, power, and ability to tap into whatever you need to get you through this moment. I know your well-being does not depend on me.

Please understand, I also know how hard it is when someone isn’t available for me when I really feel a need for connection and support.  This makes it hard for me to say no when I feel that need coming from you. 

And at the same time, I love, respect, and honor those who are able to say no to me even when I say “I could really use a friend…“  This happened once with one of my oldest and dearest friends.  It stung in the moment.  It was also painful for her, but she felt the truth of having nothing to give.  And, it taught me an invaluable lesson and modeled for me what’s possible.
 
Somehow, she knew that I would be OK even though I felt like I was falling apart in that moment. She knew that even if I didn’t find anyone else to talk to, I was able to be with myself and make it through the deeply painful and awful time.

Here I am…so, clearly, I did.  I will never forget that moment.  Not because of the pain I felt or because I was angry with my friend, but because she taught me that it is OK to be honest with yourself and with other people, even people you love deeply.  It is ok to say, “I don’t have it in me to give you what you need.  I don’t have the bandwidth.” Or, simply “No.  I’m not available.” 

And so, when I am not available, I trust you. I remember that I am not God or 911 and so I can’t expect myself to be the one to save you.  

Will I be there when I can?  Absolutely!  Will I give of myself generously when I’m filled up?  Without a doubt.  It’s who I am.  And yet, in this moment my own health and vitality depends on me saying yes to me.  Not splitting myself in two trying to honor me and others.  I must begin here, with this vessel, this heart, this being that needs my devotion and care. 

Boundaries are an Act of Radical Self-Care

Boundaries are an act of radical self-care. They take courage and awareness to set. They require us to be quiet enough to hear the inner wisdom that guides us.

Boundaries can feel awkward, clumsy, and imperfect as we begin to express them to others. We may worry how they are received until we learn to let go of that worry and begin to trust instead. If a relationship is based on over-giving, is this a relationship worth continuing? The relationships I want are with people who will understand and respect my right to take care of myself.

I’ve got a long and complicated relationship with boundaries. In the past I didn’t know what they were and had a hard time setting them or knowing what they should be. 

Boundaries are particularly important when you are in a care-giving role, personally or professionally.  If you’re someone people look to and lean into, they will naturally want your support, advice, wisdom, calm, or listening.  We owe it to ourselves (and to them) to be honest about our availability and our limits. 

Boundaries are about Respect – for Me and for You

Without respect for yourself, it’s nearly impossible to have or honor boundaries.  They help me to trust myself and to know that I have my own back.  To know that I will listen when I feel a reaction in my body that tells me yes or no, now, later, or, in fact, never.

Boundaries let you and I know what I can do and what I can’t do.  More accurately, what I am willing to do and what I am not willing to do.  I have proven over the decades that I am more than capable of pushing through and doing more than is reasonable.

After 58 years on this planet, I am no longer willing to live that way.  I love and care about so many people.  I am pulled in so many directions.  I have so much and so many people and things weighing on my mind at any given moment.  I take these things on without even being asked.  It’s up to me to free myself.

It’s up to me to respect and love myself enough to take the risk to take a stand.  It’s up to me to draw a line in the sand and then to dance with that line moment to moment.  It’s up to me to learn how to ask the wise questions of myself, to give myself a pause, in order to hear my inner guidance and wisdom.  It’s up to me to take care of myself and not expect you to be able to read my mind.

Boundaries are about Compassion

If we are friends or family, I need to trust you and to trust our relationship - to know we will find our way through even when I say no or not now or I won’t.  Boundaries empower everyone.  They liberate us.  They do not have to be harsh.  In fact, honest boundaries allow for compassionate, honest conversation and communication.


In this short (and very worth your time to watch) video about boundaries, Brené Brown shares her shock at learning that the most compassionate people she interviewed were also the most boundaried! 

Boundaries allow me to honor my heart, soul, and energy.  Boundaries are about respect, trust, and integrity. They do not come easily or naturally, and I may forever be on a quest to learn how to do them better.  I’m willing to learn because so much depends upon it.

Because I know that my energy, time, and resources are limited, as are my days, I want to love open-heartedly and live as beautifully as possible.  With that in mind, boundaries are going to be critical or it’s going to get ugly.

Your Turn
  • What’s your experience with boundaries? 
  • When and why do you need them?
  • Are you comfortable setting them? 
  • How does it feel when someone holds one with you? 
  • Have you found a kind and compassionate way to communicate them? 
  • Do they feel important to you? 
  • Are you able and willing to flex with them as circumstances change? 

Please share with us!  We can learn so much from your insights and experiences!  

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Recovery is Possible

6/5/2022

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By guest blogger, Cathy Taughinbaugh, Certified Parent and Life Coach
 
When my daughter emerged from recovery, I felt the relief of being able to let go of the stress and fear I had been feeling. The changes she'd made in her life lifted a weight off my shoulders.  
 
I realized that I was now looking at a person who could overcome challenges, learn from life lessons, and have the discipline to stay on track. I felt a shift and the changes in her, yet there was the whisper of fear. As time went on, I found I could put those fears away and embrace the new possibilities of life.
 
Good News!
 
While you may have heard that addiction is a hopeless condition, the good news is that most people do find their way to recovery from substance use and overcome other problems getting in the way of living a healthy life.
 
Recovery for many means letting go of the devastating misuse of alcohol or other drugs that have derailed their lives.
 
When a loved one emerges from a substance use problem, families have many options. For example, some live with parents or other family members. Others live in a recovery house or transitional living. I have seen people change their lives and thrive against all odds. Many different paths can lead to living a healthier life. We need to embrace them all and support what works for our loved ones. 
 
According to John Kelly, PhD, "In 2016, my colleagues and I surveyed another nationally representative sample. We discovered that the national prevalence of those in recovery is approximately 9.1 percent or 22.35 million U.S. adults. Nearly one in 10 persons in the U.S. has recovered or is recovering from a substance use disorder.”
 
Kelly goes on to say,” The statistics are tremendously encouraging about recovery. Still, it's important to recognize that the recovery change process is complicated. The journey to remission can be bumpy, and it can take a long time."
 
Yet, people's lives get better after working through a substance use problem. People in recovery from addiction will tell you that. Most who do recover go on to get a job, go back to school or give back to their community by volunteering. The more years a person has in recovery, the more their life improves.
 
Any positive change can bring excitement, coupled with the pride around the hard work that it took your loved one to make the change.
 
Change can be challenging. The temptation to fall back into old ways is always there. Yet as time goes on, the change process feels more comfortable and automatic. New habits become ingrained and that helps prevent relapse.
 
Families Recover
 
We are all recovering from something, and each family member can find their unique path to leading a better life, supporting their loved one's change, or learning new approaches to life for themselves.
 
For instance, my recovery was about letting go of focusing all my attention on our family's issues. I needed to learn to find myself again and regain the balance in my life. 
 
As time went on, I put things into place that helped me, such as exercise, writing, yoga, and keeping friends and family close. 
 
The more you support yourself and your loved one in this delicate process, the better. Family members can be a source of encouragement and hope for their loved ones. That support can be unique to your family, as everyone's recovery path is different. 
 
Whatever we are waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach
 
For anyone making a change, it takes time to get back to themselves. The exciting part is that your loved ones will be able to access the many possibilities for their lives as they move forward. It will be rewarding to observe your family's new direction.
 
And with any change comes the need for healing, compassion, and understanding. 
 
It's crucial to stay connected to your loved one. Everyone needs a support system, especially when you are making a change in your life. 
 
A support system will give you the mental and emotional nourishment to stay on track each day. 
 
Everyone feels better when communication is open and positive. When people feel better, they tend to do better. Having a clear understanding of how others are doing and what you can do to help lays the foundation for change.
 
That includes noticing the hard work your loved one is doing to maintain their recovery, keeping your emotions in check, and taking time to listen without judgment. 
 
Our brains start to look for the positive when we approach life, looking for possibilities rather than getting caught up in worrying about what could happen. 
 
The shift in thinking can be contagious. The more you can support and encourage your family members, the better off your loved one will be. 
 
Everyone will benefit if each family member can focus on themselves and how they can contribute in a helpful way. 
 
You can stay connected to your loved one. You can be a positive influence and take care of yourself.
 
Finally, having a sense of gratitude for what is going well in your life also lights the flame of possibilities. Gratitude helps you notice what is going well in your life and keeps your mind on a positive track.
 
Recovery is possible for anyone. Know there is hope and that change is often right around the corner. 
 
Cathy Taughinbaugh is a Certified Parent and Life Coach, and the author of The Compassion Antidote: A Path to Change for You and Your Child Struggling with Substance Use.  You can find out more about Cathy’s work and book at her site: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/

 


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The Way Through...

5/31/2022

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The Way Through…
Is with presence.  With breath.  With showing up.  Steadily, consistently, slowly… one moment at a time.  One breath at a time. 

As long as your heart is beating.  As long as you breathe.  There is hope.  You are here.  You can be part of a better tomorrow.  In whatever way you are called. 

So much pain surrounds us, bombards us, ceaselessly, endlessly, an onslaught of horror and devastating destruction beating our tender hearts.  We may even feel numb to it at times – our systems simply can’t take in any more.  This is a brilliant, inherent form of self-protection.  We are not meant to live in stress 24/7, and yet that is what our world offers us. 

Each of us has particular causes that tug at our hearts, keep us awake at night.  Many have so many causes pulling at us that we feel stuck, spinning, uncertain of what to do or where to even try to do something that matters. 

We may feel guilty that we aren’t doing enough.  That we’re not on the front lines, protesting, marching, directly supporting survivors.  We look at other people and feel inadequate.  We feel the weight of the need and the impossibility of holding it up ourselves.  The demand is intense, and perhaps, at times, in our sense of not-enoughness, we collapse.  We surrender in defeat and don’t even do the one thing that we could do.

Sometimes we need beautiful, vital self-compassion or tender care for our hurting, depleted souls. Understandably, we need a break.  Sometimes we stay silent because our voice feels too small, our words ineloquent, our knowledge lacking.  Sometimes we pretend we’re ok and we soldier on, because we think that’s what we’re supposed to do.

Often, we don’t ask for help.  We forget there are others feeling exactly as we do, and that together we are stronger.  Together we are a force that can move mountains.  We are impatient and want results right away, so we forget to notice the tiny steps of hope and progress. 

We may not even know what to do.  So, begin with presence.  Allow yourself to get quiet and still so you can hear the inner guidance.  Ask a question, “What would you have me know?” whether that’s to Love. God, the Universe, or your own heart or soul.  Ask, “What is mine to do?”  Is there an action you feel called toward?  Whether it feels enough or not, what is part of your mission in this life?  What can you offer? 

If you are depleted, then first rest.  Fill yourself up.  You cannot give when you are not abundantly filled.  Do this with complete permission and lack of guilt.  We need you restored.  This rest will benefit everyone.  There are many who share your concerns.  We can take turns showing up. 
The one thing I am certain of is that it is our job to make it through.  To find our way to what’s next.  I don’t know if there is “another side” to the pain you’re feeling right now, but I do know there’s another day and a natural, messy, complex evolution.  I know for certain that things in this moment will change.  For better or for worse?  I don’t know. 

We transform meaningless pain into meaningful pain when we offer our heart’s gifts to the world.  Whether the heart touches one other person who needs your words or gentle caress or you touch millions with your words and actions, it does not matter.  What matters is that you find your way.  Your expression.  Your next teeny tiny or gigantic step. 

Along the way allow yourself to feel everything that you feel.  Sometimes all at once.  Our hearts can hold it all.  Our souls know how to be with extreme opposites.  You don’t need to deny moments of joy in favor of heartache – invite them both in.  You don’t need to push down the outrage that is screaming to be unleashed. 

You are well-resourced to find ways to feel, to release, to express as part of the healing and growing journey we are each on.  When you feel not well-resourced, reach out.  Get help.  Invite people into your life who can help you find your next breath or your next step. 

Let go of expectation.  Stop comparing yourself to what others are doing.  You have your own way.  Your own way of dealing.  Your own way of helping.  Your own way of healing.  And your own way of difference-making. 

Some are on the front line, marching, protesting, shouting. Some will run for office.  Some will write letters and send money.  Some will offer practices that nourish and nurture others.  Some will write poems or posts that speak to the hearts of someone else.  Some will offer food, shelter, blankets, and clothes filled with love.  Others will silently send their loving kindness meditation and their prayers out into the world.  Every bit of it matters.  Stop comparing and judging.  We need it all. 

What’s your way through?  Where will you begin in this moment?  What is it that your heart, soul, mind, and body need right now?  How filled up are you?  Do you need to step away to be recharged?  (We offer our phone that luxury – let’s offer it to ourselves!).  Do you need to reach out and connect with someone to help or be helped?  In different moments each of these things is a valid response.  Each one will feel right at times. 

Whatever you do, begin with breath. Begin with love.  Come into your doing from the heart, holding an intention of highest and best.  Begin with care and compassion for yourself so these are the energies you exude out into the world.  If you are not filled with these qualities, you will find yourself burned out, resentful, bitter, and that is what will bleed into even your best-intentioned offerings. 

Love, what would you have me know this day?  That is the question that’s alive in my heart.  This is the place from which I long to be led.  And so, I ask. 

In response I hear, “My dear, this is a painful time.  Your heart is breaking – again.  It breaks over and over with every death and every senseless act of violence.  It breaks when you hear the despair.  Your soul feels the pain of loss, for all the families.  Your heart is tender.  Care for it and then offer love.  Send it out in waves – through your writing and through your prayers.  You will know when there is another action to take.  For now, let this be enough.  I am with you.  I love you.” 

Here's a meditation "The Way Through" to support you.  


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Love, What Would You Have Me Know This Day?

5/24/2022

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Thank you, Liz Gilbert, for this beautiful question (you can hear Liz talk about it on her recent podcast conversation with Glennon Doyle here). 

I’ve added this question at the end of my journaling each morning.  I write the question and I listen and write down the response I receive, simply allowing the words to flow through my pen.  I LOVE this question because it gets me out of my head and into the energy of Love itself.  An energy that we need to connect with more than ever.  An energy that is being shouted over by voices of fear, hatred, and division.  An energy that lives within each one of us, but may come through as more subtle or quiet. 




Although Love also comes through fiercely at times – in the voice of a Mama Bear defending her child.  Or a leader in social justice who just can’t take the hatred and division one more minute.  In my own voice as I try to break through the prevailing messages about addiction and recovery. 

As I’ve written this question for the past week, some themes have emerged in the responses that come through.
  1. I am loved. Every message includes an explicit “I love you.”
  2. I am not alone.  Love says, “I am right here,” and “You do not have to figure all of this out!”
  3. We’ve got this (whatever “this” is).
  4. Breathe – lots and lots of messages to slow down and breathe.
  5. Reassurance that I am held and encouragement to show up and live.

A couple of my favorite messages (though, really, I love them all!):

Day One - A message of surrender:

“Surrender…for all of it.  Your health.  Big life decisions.  Your sons’ lives.  The work you do with people.  Surrender.  Get out of the way.  Let me in – let me work through you.  Show up where you are called and as you feel called.  Trust that you will be led.  Surrender – save yourself the energy for where it is needed.  Act when you get the nudges.  Do your part, of course.  But you don’t need to do my part or all the parts.  You can trust the people to show up for their own lives.  You, my dear, are not the benevolent knower of all things.  You, my love, do not have anyone else’s answers.  You’re off the hook.  I love you.  Rest easy.”

Day Two - A message of trust and leaning in in uncertain times.  I needed to hear this.  As I wrote last week in “No Pressure.  Presence”, every time is an uncertain time.  It feels extra uncertain these days with so much chaos, division, and devastation in the world:

“I’m right here.  You are wrapped in so much love, even in the unknown time.  Lean into me.  Lean into your family of people who love you so very much.  Let yourself be held and supported.  And LIVE.  Live with the urgency that comes from this day, from appreciating the life that’s right here, right now even when you don’t know what’s next.  And, regardless of what’s next, believe in your body’s ability to heal – remember that.  Trust it.  Allow it.  You get to write your story of this adventure.  And, right now that means to just take life one day, one moment, at a time.  None of us knows how long we have so don’t miss what’s right here… Live.  Love.  Honor and care for yourself, and don’t miss the beauty that is available even in the hard and scary times.  You never know what’s possible.  I love you.”

By taking the time for these short communications with Love, I am able to tap into a different energy from what I might find out there in the outside world.  I am able to listen to the language of my heart and soul.  I am reminded of things I already know deep down inside.  My mind quiets a bit.  My nervous system relaxes a bit.  At least for a moment. 

These moments build on one another and I expand my capacity to bring love out into the world.  It softens me.  It opens my heart.  It emboldens me to speak out where in the past I might have stayed silent – to speak up where people are being harmed.  To stand up for what I believe in.  To strengthen and build relationships.   I feel filled with courage and compassion.
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Your Invitation:
I’d love for you to give it a try.  Take a moment and ask, “Love, what would you have me know this day?” Ask it whenever you like - as a daily practice or when you're facing a challenge.  When you're struggling or unsure.  Ask.  Listen.  See what comes through. 

Here's a meditation to support you.  Love, What Would You Have Me Know This Day? 

Share if you like – I do believe these messages are Universal ones meant to be heard by many. 
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How does it feel to take this time to connect with and listen to Love?  How might this inquiry benefit you?  

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No Pressure.  Presence.

5/18/2022

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Right here, right now.  This is the only moment I am guaranteed.  So, how do I want to live it?  Who do I want to be?  How do I want to show up? What impact do I want to have on those around me and on some small piece of the world? 

(It’s becoming clear why my theme for April’s A to Z Blog Challenge was Question (Almost) Everything!  I do love questions and what they open up within us!)

Last week I wrote about Life, Death, and Rebirth as related to what I see happening in the world, particularly in this season of Spring.  I wasn’t necessarily thinking about what happens within each one of us. 

But, if we are alive, and we are to die (and we aren’t really certain about rebirth, though I have my ideas), how to make this moment, this day count is a powerful, compelling question to sit with.  No pressure… simply presence.  Awareness. Choice. 

Every single one of us knows we will die – that this life will end.  And, for whatever reason, we sometimes forget to live with that truth as a guiding light.  We act as if we have forever – endless, limitless time. 

Your Last Day
 
What would you do
if you learned you had
one day to live?
No second chance…
this was it.
 
What changes would you make?
Who would you connect with?
How would you spend your time?
What would you let go of?
 
Why do we act as if
we have an endless reservoir of time,
so we’ll get to it “some day?”
 
The truth is, none of us know
when we will leave this earth.
So, why do we wait?
Why are we so out of touch
or careless with our ways
and our days?
 
We all know we have
limited time here.
Why do we pretend otherwise?
Why wait to forgive,
and love,
and be our full, beautiful selves?
 
This is so basic
so simple,
so profound,
and so overlooked.
 
Not wanting to
think about death,
we fail to live
as if life really mattered.
 
Let’s wake up and begin today
to cherish the people,
the moments,
the perfect expressions of self.
And live as if today,
this moment,
was all we had.
 
©Barb Klein, 2016 from 111 Invitations: Step into the Full Richness of Life
 
We put things off or we wait for the big dream to come true before we can be happy.  We wait til everything is “just right” before we get married, have a baby, move, or retire. We hesitate, feeling not ready until we take one more class, do one more edit, get one more certification.  We fail to hit "send" on the manuscript.  Sometimes we wait too long.  I’ve seen people retire with grand dreams and die very soon after, before they have had a chance to do any of the things they put off. 

So, how do we live while we’re here?  One thing I learned from my beautiful vibrant friend, Mary Lally, is to “live your f’in life!” Thankfully, she had a doctor who gave her this advice, even when she was living with the uncertainty of advanced stage ovarian cancer in the time of Covid.  She knew that this moment is the one we are guaranteed – take it.  Show up for it.  This is my intention, no matter what the future holds. 

To live life doesn’t mean you have to do big or grand things.  “Small” things count so much and may constitute the majority of our days. 

How do I want to live this day?  With love.  With joy.  With hope.  Inviting in new beginnings and fresh possibilities.  Open.  Grateful.  Present.  One moment at a time. Letting "good enough" be good enough.  No pressure.  Just presence.  Love.  Love for myself, for the people I love, and for life itself, however long it may be. 

How about you?  How do you want to live this day?  Please share.  Please live.  You matter. 

Here’s a little musical invitation from the amazing Pink: The Last Song of Your Life. 
And a meditation, if you like, with a reading of "A Mystery" from 111 Invitations - Presence. 

Please consider this your invitation to live.  Fully.  Whatever that looks like and means to you. 

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